Think Before You Leap
Thinking before speaking is a challenge for a lot of people. It might even be hard for us especially if we are trying to prove to the world how right we are.
A significant feature of the speech of Muslims is that we don’t respond to bad words with bad words. It is advised we make peace with people who use these words by simply avoiding indulging with them in vain conversations that lead to nothing.
{And when the foolish address them (with bad words) they reply back with ‘Salamaa’ (peaceful words of gentleness).} (Al-Furqan 25:63)
Before you speak, ask yourself if what you’re about to say is helpful, inspiring, necessary, or kind.
Just because we can say something does not mean we should.
Conversation during Anger
All of us have people in our lives who drive us crazy. We have spent hours reliving the unfair, unappreciative, inconsiderate treatment they have inflicted on us. But getting mad at this person just does not help. Believe me, I know.
Remember sometimes silence is often what most needs to be said.
Be Honest; Don’t swear
Occasionally when we want to confirm a statement, we swear by the name of Allah or one of His attributes. We should not make this a habit. The name of Allah should not be used carelessly, and to swear by it is a very serious matter.
Islam demands a truthfulness and prohibits lying. God commands that a Muslim be honest. This is seen in the verse:
{O you who believe! Fear God, and be with those who are true (in word and deeds)}. (At-Tawbah 9:119)
Our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him) teaches us in the hadith:
“Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise. In addition, a man keeps on telling the truth until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person.
Falsehood leads to wickedness and evil-doing, and wickedness leads to the (Hell) Fire, and a man may keep on telling lies till he is written recorded with Allah as a liar.” (Al-Bukhari)
Art of Conversation
In reality it is hard sometimes to be polite and respectful during speech. These are challenges. Suppress your inclination to speak when angry; bite your tongue. Simply appreciate the payoff of saying nothing at all.
A thought becomes a word. A word becomes an action. An action becomes an automatic behavior. Ultimately all these will define how we are seen and perceived.
Remember a moment of patience during a moment of anger saves us a hundred moments of regret.
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