Perhaps you have heard of the myth of the Alchemist’s stone that can turn any ordinary metal into gold. As Muslims, we don’t need a magic stone to turn our messes into golden opportunities. The formula for doing that was provided to us by Prophet Muhammad:

How wonderful is the case of a believer; there is good for him in everything and this applies only to a believer. If prosperity attends him, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him; and if adversity befalls him, he endures it patiently and that is better for him. (Muslim)

However, if you have ever suffered from depression, you’ll know that it is extremely hard to be patient or grateful during such a phase. The cold dark nothingness that grips you gets control over your mind and your life in such a way that there is very little you can do to help yourself. And most of it is often a physiological rather than a psychological ailment. So how to convert this horrible nightmare into an enjoyable experience?

Stop Blaming Yourself

Depression is a disease. Let me repeat that. Depression is a disease, just like malaria or jaundice or common cold. If you have it, it does not mean you are a weak person, it does not mean you have a weak imaan, and it in no way means that you’re somehow to blame for it. The Quran even records a Prophet being so powerfully aggrieved that he loses his eyesight.

{And he [Yaqub] turned away from them and said, “Oh, my sorrow over Joseph,” and his eyes became white from grief, for he was [of that] a suppressor.} (12:84)

Stop taking blame on yourself for something out of your control, and half your problem is solved Insha’Allah. In order to help you with that, imagine that a friend of yours in the same state as you’re in. They are terribly depressed and sad. How would you treat that person? Would you bully them and tell them it’s all their own fault, or would you try and console them, hug them and make them feel better?

 Remove Pressure

As much as possible, cut down your obligations, tasks, chores etc. Remove as much stress as you can without actually shunning from your core responsibilities. Give yourself a break. Spend time doing the things you want. Don’t feel guilty to watch TV for hours if you feel like it. Remember it’s all part of getting better in sha Allah.

Make Use of ‘Do-Nothingism’

Dr. David Burns, a specialist in CBT therapy for depression, has coined the term ‘do-nothingism’ in his book, Feeling Good. This is experienced in all regular depressive episodes. You just don’t feel like getting out of bed. Your work starts piling up, and soon it seems like a huge insurmountable mountain, thus adding even more to your depression. You become more and more hopeless by the day, hating yourself for being so ‘lazy’.

In order to make use of this passive phase, remind yourself that you’re not in control of your life anyway. Whatever has happened, happened by the will of Allah. The Prophet strictly forbade us from saying ‘if only’.

“Strive to seek that which will benefit you and do not feel helpless. If something overwhelms you, then say: Qaddarallah, wa ma sha’a fa’al (It is the decree of Allah and what He wills He does). And beware of (saying) ‘If only,’ for ‘If only’ opens the door to Satan.” (Ibn Majah)

So when you think of the ever-increasing pile of chores, say: “Qaddarallah, wa ma sha’a fa’al”. When you’re feeling too much burden, when you’re in a situation where every attempt of yours is failing to make a way out, rely on Allah. It was Allah’s will that you came in such a state, and all the preceding events that led to it were from His decree too.

He has given this as a test for you, to see whether you let yourself become crushed under the load of self-blame, or whether you throw that load away and lean on Him for support and relax. Having tawakkul (reliance on Allah) really feels very like leaning on an extremely comfortable couch and just relaxing, your heart filling with Allah’s love, for Allah says:

{Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].} (3:159)

He also says:

{And whoever relies upon Allah – then He is sufficient for him.} (65:3)

So let go of all feelings of worry and self-blame, and rely completely of Allah. Let Him take care of the situation.

{If Allah should aid you, no one can overcome you; but if He should forsake you, who is there that can aid you after Him? And upon Allah let the believers rely.} (3:160)

Convert your Pain into Pleasure

When we’re depressed, we seek out for sympathetic people who’ll listen to us. Most often, we’re disappointed, because most people won’t understand, or can’t give you enough time, or will have cares of their own. But Allah is al Haleem, so why not share with Him? He is always there, waiting for you to talk to Him. He understands you better than yourself.

Republished with kind permission from understandquran.com.