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Removing Facial Hair and Other Issues (Fatwa Session)

Sheikh Kifah Mustapha
21 January, 2018

Dear Brothers/Sisters,

 

Thank you very much for joining us in this Live Fatwa session. We would like also to thank our guest,Sheikh Kifah Mustapha, for answering the questions directed to him. You will find the answers of your questions below.

Tuesday, Jan. 23, 2018 | 17:59 - 19:00 GMT

Session is over.

Assalamu-Alaikum Wrwb, My husband is getting continuous dreams of me talking to Non-Mahram man and he recently he had a dream where he saw, all of us with group of friends and we were not married, rather were single, and in the dream he was suppose to marry someone else. Can you please help me, all this is making me scared. Jazak Allah Khair.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

 All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Most dreams are things we think about during day or we fear from. I assume your husband loves you much and just concerned about you, nothing more. I also believe you care about him and you want him to be always with you so you fear he might marry another one.

Out of love comes concern but I would not worry, you are to be great couple and may Allah protect both of you.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Hello brother, I’m a divorcee that recently got married again a few months ago. My husband told me that he’s embarrassed by me because of my baggage and that people will talk about him and he’s embarrassed to even claim me as his wife. He knew I was divorced before we got married and he made his choice. My question is what do I do about that? Also we are having a hard enough time because his family doesn’t talk to me because they told him he was wrong for marrying me. I told him to speak to his parents from the day we got married and he finally listened after 3 months of not speaking to them (not by choice but because he didn’t know he to approach them). They opened the door for him and told him that I wasn’t welcome there because they don’t agree with the decision he made because I’m a divorcee. I need some advice on how to handle all of that. Thank you



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

 All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Such cases need counseling with both of you. Perceptions have to be changed among people. All prophet’s wives were divorced except for Aishah and for sure no one is better than the prophet (peace be upon him).

His family issues can only be resolved when he believes in you and show you respect next to love and care. He will be the one who will tell his parents to treat you honorably and they will do that because for him.

 

I am not sure where do you live but see if you can seek counseling with him.

 

If he refuses to attend counseling, it will be your call for how long you can hope to maintain this relation or end it.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamaikum, I am 30 years old Muslim woman and single. I am the only daughter with no siblings. My widowed mother has been trying to get me married from a very long time. I see her crying day & night in namaz for my marriage but in vain.Due to some or the other reason the alliance just does not work out. Alhamdulillah Allah has bestowed me with Good looks, education and good family background but despite this I am facing so much difficulty in getting married. After lot of suggestion from friends and families I created a profile on social site for right alliance. Even after being active for several years I was not able to find a suitable alliance until recently. I met a guy online and he is MashaAllah exactly the way I always prayed to Allah. I wanted somone with the equal blend of both Deen & Dunya and he is just like that. He would guide me for prayers, for Islamic ways and MashaAllah we have a very good understanding between us and hence decided to get married. However, since he is Shia and I am not . Also not from the same culture his family is strictly against this alliance and have told him, if he wishes to marry me then he has to marry me over their dead bodies. His mother says she has taken (mashwara) guidance from some renowned person and he has said our alliance will not work out and we will be separated in a year's time. That seems very unlikely because of the understanding and love we have for each other now. We started getting to know each other purely with the intention of getting married and now I am in such a situation that we both find it difficult to be without each other and are not even able to get married. I know I may have been wrong in some ways in harboring such feeling before marriage but I always asked for forgiveness and always interacted with him only with the intention of getting married. I have such positive feeling for him from the very first time I met, like an intuition telling me he is the one for you. Even though at first keeping my intuitions aside I rejected him thinking he is from some other community and may not be very understanding but to my dismay he turned out to be exactly like the way I always prayed. I pray to Allah daily to have mercy on me and get me settled with him. I and my mother are very very tired with constant pressure of family and society for my marriage and my relatives try to just settle me with any alliance which is not of our choice. Please please pray for my marriage with him. Please suggest me what to do.I have posted queries in other sites before but never received any answer. I hope I would get some response from here. I don't know with whom to discuss and talk. I am very distressed, disturbed and sad. I cant go about my daily chores with this constant tension in my head. Please pray that I get married to him. We have planned our future together, career, haj, life and everything and I know it's wrong on our part to have done that before getting married. but we did with the intention of marrying each other. Please help me. Please pray for me. Please suggest me what to do as I am already 30 years old.:(



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

  

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

I am not in favor marrying across sects for the much difference in faith and cultural practices. If you add to that how your family looks at it, it should give you another hint.

 

I am not going to list the differences between Shia and Sunni here, you can read about that but I feel the spiritual harmony as believing in the same tenants is very important for a long lasting and trouble-free relationship.

 

I have observations also on the social network matching sites as to what really I the character of the person. People tend to type the best of practices but not until you know their family, friends and character is when you might have some sort of idea of how really people are.

 

In short, I will advise of a better method to know people and someone from you own sect.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Hi, I have a question. When I was a kid, I had classmates who were catholics/Christians and did the sign of the cross as a kid I was curious and so I did it thinking Allah will forgive me? I immediately said sorry but I didn’t know that worshiping another God is a major sin, I didn’t worship but I did the sign of the cross. Will Allah forgive me? And one more question, Sorry for asking a lot. When I moved in Philippines because of College I went in a Catholic school, The professors said that I was required to take their Catholic classes and so I did and I had high grades because I was only studying for the sake of not wanting to fail a minor subject and again I did their sign of the cross and prayed with them (not really prayed but joining them saying their everyday ritual prayers) because I was embarrassed of my religion (But I told them that I was Muslim) But I had no feelings when doing those acts. Have I committed a major sin? Will Allah Forgive me? Please answer my question. I’m trying to be a better Muslim but Iblis would always whisper to me that I am a bad person and Allah won’t forgive me. And lately I’m getting depressed. If Allah can’t forgive me, what’s the point in this life?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

  

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Indeed Allah will forgive all things you did because of two reasons. One part of it was not knowing or unintentional. Two, you are asking forgiveness and Allah will forgive all sins.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Since childhood after salah, I start dua by asking Allaah to send the blessing I have earned to the Hazrat Muhammed, all the nabi rasuls, and their families. Then I I send it to everyone I can think of in the Ummah and my late parents and other relatives before I pray for those alive. I also send Salaam to Hazrat Jibreel, Israfil, and Mikhail (AS) am I doing anything wrong?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

 All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Not at all this is a very honorable thing to doز

 

Please include us in your Dua.

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamualaikum, I am bit confused on where should I place my hands while praying namaz? Some say place your hands on your chest while others say keep your hands below the navel. I normally place my hands below the navel as I follow Hanafi madhaab.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Placing them under the naval is the proper thing under the Hanafi Madhhab. Islamic views are many and all respected, and what your are doing is part of the Sunnah that the prophet (peace be upon him) did, so you are fine.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalam Alaikum. I read many times of hadiths that Allah curses women who remove facial hair. I suffer of hirsutism. Many say that for facial hair is intended only for the eyebrows but I still fear that the facial hair is intended for the entire face. Can you explain it? Just looking at the mirror gives me discomfort but knowing that Allah forbidden such thing haram makes me surrender. I'm not married and I wear usually a niqab when I go out. It is a long time that I do not put a real make up on, and you know that many girls have this thing of feeling pretty. Well now, I feel like that I do not have to feel pretty or wear nice cloths (like there's no point in doing all that). I just became lazy in beautifying myself and I just let go. I would like to feel pretty but due to this hadith I'm scared and I feel like no man would want a woman like me. I do not look forward for marriages... I really became pessimistic about these marital relationships. Nowadays we live in ovethat shapes or face it Salam,



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Removing unneeded hair in the places that usually it is not supposed to grow for a male or female is permissible. We are to keep the human natural way that God gave us next to cleanliness to look natural and also beautiful. The prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Allah is beautiful and likes beauty.”

 

So if hair is growing on upper or lower lips for girls it should be fine removing them, or if hair even around the eyebrows grew more than the natural way it should also be ok to remove them. Even beard for men is to be trimmed to look fine.

 

The Hadith cursed those who change the (Creation of God) which means affecting the natural look Allah gave us, not those bringing the natural look back to faces by removing extra unneeded things to it.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Salam, I wanted some guidance for taking oath. Is taking oath on iPhone Quran app (pretending it's Quran) considered an actual oath? I, assuming that taking an oath on iPhone isn't an actual oath, took a false oath and lied for a very petty issue amongst friends and later dismisses it. I'm now just scared what if an oath on iPhone Quran is actually a real oath on Quran? Please advise me if it is considered as an actual oath. And if yes, then what is the repentance for this sin (as I didn't know iPhone oath is considered as an actual oath). Salam,



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

 All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Oaths by Allah or on the Quran do not need an actual Mushaf to physically put your hand on it. It is sufficient to have the intention and make the verbal oath to be liable.

 

Now if that was the case and you cannot keep the oath, you either feed 10 needy people ($100) in Chicago to the poor or fast 3 days if you do not have the money.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Long ago, when I was at age of 14 I guess, at that time I was a Christian, and I saw one of my friends who saved a Christian girl’s life, and I felt bad because, I did not had the opportunity to do this and i was about to crush her by mistake and another one saved her life because I was too heavy. And then I asked God To Make for me opportunities to save someone’s life so that I can become even much good person. And on third day at night, when I slept, I dreamt that I was standing before a very massive gold and shiny throne and it was even bigger that throne than me, and when someone was about to sit on that throne, then my head turned away in such that I will not be able to see who sit on that throne, and i did not managed at all to see at least his feet, and then I heard a voice saying to me that: “you don’t have to save someone’s life in order to become good person, for you to become good person you need to listen to your parents”. Because, before, I was kind of disobedient to my parents even if my mother is a Christian and my father is a Muslim, so maybe that’s why I received the message. But the voice was none like in this life, and I don’t know how to describe it, it isn’t like I never heard such voice from anyone in this life. Do you think it might be God Almighty who told me this? And only his or His voice I was able to hear it complemtely. If, no, then who told me this? Because, I don’t want Ibliss to pretend that he is god and to talk to me, I hate Ibliss a lot, I don’t want even to hear his ugly voice. Is this a blessing? Is this a bad thing? Because, someone told me that if God wanted to Punish you, He would bless and bless and keep blessing you and then He will Punish you. Is that true what this person said? Because, now I’m freaked.



In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

  

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

In theory, one can hear God in a dream but there is no way to proof that on a personal level that your personal experience was for real God.

 

Dreams are three kids. One from God, one from Iblis and one from self-thoughts which are the most of what we dream about.

 

One of the lines that separate real true dreams that have meaning interpreted from regular personal thoughts that a dream will come more than one time repeated the same thing again and again.

 

What you have dreamed of seeing a feet for sure is not God, because God is nothing like our perception of things. As to telling you obey parents is a righteous thing from your own thoughts I would assume.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Asalamu alikum My question is if the nikah is done but the marriage hasn't happened yet and the girl has been divorced by her husband 1. Via three text messages on phone. 2.Via a phone call where he's telling her I am divorcing you and he repeats this sentence three times, also the conversation recording is available with the girl. 3. He sent her divorce papers and later on told her that they were duplicate paper's. What's the status of that girl Right now remember the marriage function has not taken place yet n the girl is still at her father's place. And the boy hasn't even touched the girl yet never ever!! Asalamu alikum!!!! Jazak Allahu Kheir



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

 All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Only if the husband was really in conscious and intending ending the marriage as a final choice and decision that I consider divorce in text or phone valid. In times of fast responses via text and heated argument via phones, I do not see divorce and ending family relations valid via text or phone unless it was really meant to as a decision and these means were the only means available to notify the wife. But in heated arguments on phones or exchanged texts that can go fast and uncontrolled via text I do not see ending a family like that at all.

Divorce via documents is an official business that courts use and notary public people so yes, written documentation is a responsible act of ending marriage and is valid original or real copies.

 

If divorce happens before real marriage the girl gets half of the dowry Mahr and no Iddah period on her she can remarry right away.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

As a Muslim woman, am I allowed to marry a non-Muslim ?



In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

 No Muslim male is allowed to marry a non-Muslim girl except Christian or Jew and no Muslim female is allowed to marry a non-Muslim period.

 

Marriage comes in levels; physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. Although physical and emotional are things all humans can relate to each other, Islam wanted us to focus on the value of the spiritual part. (Seek one with Deen.)

 

Living under a man who does not recognize your God as one, does not believe in the Quran or as Mohammad (peace be upon him) being the last messenger should be a big issue for a Muslim.

Add to that the children born take the faith outside Islam. Add to that some of the practices that a Muslim female should be conscious of fasting during Ramadan, rulings of Tahara etc that might contradict what a non-Muslim husband might perceive in his practices.

That is why Allah did not permit a Muslim female to marry a non-Muslim “And a servant who is a believer is better than one with Shirk).”

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Aoa.i m from pakistan..i have 3 daughters.now my husband wants a son.he wants me to under go gender selection procedure so that a sure son be born...plz do guide in details if gender selection is halal or haram in islam....plz give a detail fatwa.. Thank you



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

  

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Islam does not prohibit utilizing knowledge for the benefit of the human being. There is no text in the Quran that prohibits utilizing such knowledge in planning the gender of the child. Planning the gender of the child does not contradict Qadar of Allah, it is all choices within Qadar of Allah, so yes you can do it insha’Allah.

 

My only concern is the safety of the procedure to the child or you as a mom, if that is secured all is good insha’Allah.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalam Alaikum; I married my husband in the Middle East 32 years ago. We were both young and at the time I knew that he drank alcohol, did not fast, and did not pray. But I thought with living there and with the help of our families, I can change him. After marriage, he insisted on leaving the Middle East; we have been living in California for the last 31 years. Both our daughters were born in Northern California and I did what I could to raise them according to the way of Allah with no support from my husband. If anything, sometimes has was against me. My older, who is now 30 years old got a proposal from a non-muslim man at work and she accepted. I have tried with her, with my husband, and with the man she wants to marry to no avail. I gave the guy the Quran, many videos on converts to Islam, went into deep conversations about Islam with him, and explained to him that her marriage to him will be invalid and she'll be fornicating every time she sleeps with him, something that I can't bear. He said that he is not going to convert. I do not want to sever my relationship with my daughter but at this point I cannot bear to look at my husband. If these two end up marrying, I am going to leave my husband but stay close to my daughter to get her back on the right path or to help her husband convert. What Does our religion say in terms of my leaving my husband? Salaam



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

90% of the cases that come to me like that we manage to have the person accept Islam Hamdulillah. In most cases, when the girl or any family member talks to them, people might not be receptive as it comes with authority and the tone of demand and fear at the same time. Imams might be better presenters of Islam in such cases.

 

My advice is to meet an Imam and talk to him and see where it goes from there.

 

As for the marriage of a Muslim girl from a non-Muslim, it is a major sin in Islam and you should not be of approval of it. If she insists on doing it she is to be liable in front of God about such a sin.

 

I am also at the same time not to disconnect totally from any family member regardless of their level of sin. There is a lot of fitna out there and we must try our best to the most we can provide guidance to people, the rest is up to the person to decide.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Asalamualukum, I pray all is well. I have a question to ask for a person. The brother is married for two years now with a child. His wife, however, is constantly jealous of him and the work he does in the masjid or any place else. his wife tends to suspect him and always thinks that he is talking to women or is afraid. His wife's view in regards to women is that he should not speak to them if there is no need. If he even smiles then that is also a problem. His wife prevents him from talking even with his cousins or looking at them when they visit. He view is that you should not look at all and talk at all. Please advise. Thank you.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

  

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Gender relations are guided in Islam by lowering the gaze, avoiding being in private or flirting. These are values that one must keep up with as a guide from Allah Almighty and His prophet (peace be upon him). NO man or woman can monitor the other person to feel safe about that. Trust is the base that should bring peace into hearts and tranquility towards each other.

 

My advice for the sister is to keep a space of trust about her husband and if he is to do something wrong it is a sin between him and Allah. She can never stop him from doing haram if husband wants to plus the more she brings that in his face and make it an issue, the more he might tend actually to do it.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

I was listening to some Islamic lectures about concealing faults of others so these questions came to my mind What to do if we are witness of someone's sin who tried to do it privately but somehow got exposed? For example drinking wine or zina Noting that the sinner does not hold a bad reputation in society and did not had the intention of doing it publicly but still some people saw it. Can we advise that person to repent sincerely and hide his/her sins? And secondly if someone is very notorious in character and has no shame in committing sin publicly but is then guided by Allah and he wants to repent. For example a high way robber, having illicit relationship with girls, heavy drinker etc. Will ALLAH accept his repentance without application of any Islamic punishment on him obviously before bringing him to court of Allah because if that kind of person repents he/she could be role model for giving up sins for many people.



In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “All of my Ummah (people) are in well (status) except for those who expose (themselves.)” (Al-Bukhari)

 

We have no right to expose anyone who committed a sin in private at all. If we want to advise them privately that is ok.

 

Although people might not forget sins of people who were public in their sins but yes indeed Allah Almighty can forgive all sins and that is the only thing a person should be worried about of how Allah Almighty looks at him. Allah said: “Say, O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” (Az-Zumar 39:53)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

I will break my questions into parts for better understanding 1- If a person does some sin liable to Hadd or Tazir like Zina, theft,slandering someone of adultery, etc and repents and return people their rights (if he violates any) but does not get the required punishment because his sin did not reach Islamic authorities. Is that enough for that person to repent and conceal all his sin regardless he lives in an Islamic state or live in non Islamic state? 2- so if repentance is there for all sins why are some scholars harsh in their ruling and say repentance is not enough for these sins as there is Hadd or Tazir for them so you may go , confess and get your punishment if you live in Islamic state. On the other hand majority of Muslim scholars says true repentance is enough and there is no need to confess (I have asked so many scholars they say it is better and more desirable to conceal and not to expose yourself to public) And true repentance is enough for forgiveness of these sins They always quote this Hadith " Whoever of you does a sin that entails Hadd punishment should conceal it and if he tells us we will implement Hadd on him" And also quote other examples. And they say Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) tried to forgive those kind of people and asked them not to confess Because a person who is repentant may want to live a good life according to principles of Islam after getting guidance from Allah and rectifying his mistake and not get exposed or get punishment? IS THERE ANY HOPE FOR THAT PERSON IN LIFE? So kindly give me the right opinion as it might reduce my anxiousness related to this issue. Jazak Allah



In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

If one committed a sin, he is not asked to bring it into public. The story of the Companion Ma`iz when he came to the prophet (peace be upon him) asking for punishment about Zina, the prophet (peace be upon him) kept turning away from him, a sign to keep it to himself, until he made 4 testimonies against himself and insisted for punishment. Only then the prophet (peace be upon him) had to act as a judge to implement the ruling.

 

In other words, if someone committed a sin, he or she shall keep it to himself and repent between him and Allah Almighty and if it did include some rights to others he can clear that with them.

 

The prophet (peace be upon him) said: “O people it is time to quit from any sins that will cause you punishment. If one touched any of these filthy (acts) let him shield himself by the cover Allah provided him, for one who expose himself we must apply ruling of punishment in him.” (Al-Muwatta’)
I am not sure who among scholars that will ask for such thing but my answer is the prophetic advice in that which scholars of knowledge adhere to.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.