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Live Fatwa (General Session)

Dr. Mohammad S. Alrahawan
16 July, 2017

Dear Brothers/Sisters,

 

Thank you very much for joining us in this Live Fatwa session. We would like also to thank our guest, Dr. Mohammad S. Alrahawan, for answering the questions directed to him. You will find the answers of your questions below.

Saturday, Jul. 22, 2017 | 13:00 - 15:00 GMT

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On the authority of Ibn ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) who said, “The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) forbade qaza’. Qaza’ means having part of a boy’s head shaved and leaving part unshaven.

 

This Hadeeth clearly states the prohibition of Qaza’ which is to shave parts of the head and leave the others. Qaza‘ (stray of hair) means to shave a part of one’s head and to leave another. Meanwhile, if one has his hair cut in such a manner that there is a very clear difference between one part of one’s head and another, then this is also Qaza‘.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

Is Allah forgiving those who committed adultery when they repented real repent they won't commit it again?



Committing adultery is one of the grave sins which is promised evil consequences in this life and the hereafter, but Allah forgives all sins including adultery. He said in the Quran, “Say, O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful. “ (Az-Zumar 39:53)

 

On how should you seek forgiveness from Allah, you have to make a since repentance. First, your repentance should be meant for the pleasure of Allah. It should not be intended for showing off. Second, you must express remorse for the sin you have committed. Third, you must give up this sin. Fourth, you must have a strong resolute not to make this sin again.

 

Moreover, you must increase of your righteous and good deeds espically praying in congregation at mosques doing other deeds that draw you closer to Allah. You must also close all cracks and avenues that may give room for the shaytan such as mingling with women or talking to them without a legal reason.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

Assalamualaikum I have a few guard dogs and they have litters every year. Now, can I sell the puppies as it is hard to distribute them and use the money to feed the parent dogs only ? I asked a renowned sheikh about this and he said it was permissible I just wanted to know what others say about this Jazak Allahu Khayr



Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

 

There are numerous hadiths which prohibit the selling of all types of dogs. `Awn bin Abu Juhaifa narrated that his father bought a slave who practiced the profession of cupping.. I asked my father why he had done so. He replied, “The Prophet (peace be upon him) forbade the acceptance of the price of a dog or blood, and also forbade the profession of tattooing, getting tattooed and receiving or giving Riba, (usury), and cursed the picture-makers.” (Al-Bukhari)

According to the report of Abu Mas`ud Al-Badri who said, ”The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) prohibited the price of a dog, the earning of an prostitute, and the money given to a soothsayer (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

 

This is the view of the majority of scholars including Shafi`i and Hanbali scholars.

 

But the Hanafi scholars permitted the selling of dogs generally while Maliki scholars permitted the selling of guard dogs only. They based their view on the hadith of the Prophet, narrated Abu Hurairah who reported the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) saying, “Whoever keeps a dog, one Qirat of the reward of his good deeds is deducted daily, unless the dog is used for guarding a farm or cattle.” Abu Hurairah (in another narration) said from the Prophet, “unless it is used for guarding sheep or farms, or for hunting.” Narrated Abu Hazim from Abu Hurairah: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A dog for guarding cattle or for hunting.” Those scholars maintain that as long as the Prophet exempted those types of dogs from prohibition, they are allowed to be sold and purchased because the only way of procuring them is by sale.

 

I prefer the view of Malik scholars and therefore, you can sell those dogs on the condition that they will sold for the sole purpose of guarding homes or sheep.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

 

 

Does the black magic exist in reality? Is it possible for any human being to trigger a jinn to do harmful effects to another specific human beings? If anyone believes that the black magic is not illusion, is he out of the Islamic circle? (a)Jinns volunteerly harming human beings b)evil eye and c)jealousy are outside the purview of this question)



In Quran, Allah Almighty says: “Suleman (Solomon) did not disbelieve, but the devils disbelieved teaching men magic.” (Al-Baqarah 2:102) From this verse of the Quran, it is clear that magic is one of the teachings of Satan. Those who disbelieve follow the path of Satan and these are the ones who rely on magic as a means of fulfilling their desires and make their wishes come true.

 

Regarding the same matter, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said in his hadith: “Whoever goes to a fortune teller (a soothsayer) or a diviner and believes him, has, in fact, disbelieved in what has been revealed to Muhammad (peace be upon him).” (Abu Dawud)

 

From this hadith of Prophet again it becomes clear that resorting to black magic or any of its associated branches, actually denies the Prophecy and the Message brought by Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), which tells a person to rely on Allah only.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

As'Salamu Alaykum, Firstly, thank you for taking this time out to read my question. I've been married a couple of years now to a born Muslim . I'm a revert and trying my best to practice the deen and get closer to Allah (SWT). I got married because I thought it would please Allah (SWT) it was the best thing for me and we could make it work . I told my husband that I wanted to get married in the masjid and I just wanted the ceremony to be small . My husband tells me: my parents already went to the Masjid and did the ceremony without us back in his country. My husband didn't even talk to me about it . Is there such a thing ? There was no pictures or any proof . How can that be ? Also, it became really surprising to me how much we differ in the way we want to worship. I try to wake him up for prayer and he snaps at me. I try to go to the Masjid and wear hijab he discourage me and tells me I'm putting our lives in danger. I ask him why he doesn't pray he tells me just because I don't see him doesn't mean he doesn't pray . I talk to him about Quran he tells me that the Quran is so pure that you have to go through somebody . These kind of things are the reason why I wanted to leave Christainty. I'm really unhappy and miserable. It's been going on for almost 4 years . Thank you for you time JAK As'Salamu Alaykum



Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

 

In order to have your marriage correct from the Islamic view, there must be a contract of marriage which is conducted in the Islamic way. This contract must include a bride and a groom in addition to two trustworthy Muslim witnesses and a guardian for the woman.

 

This guardian may be the imam of the Islamic center if your relatives are not Muslims. Moreover, there must be a dowry either included at the beginning of the contract or given up the consummation of marriage.

 

Having a wedding party by inviting people to a banquet is a different story. It is not compulsory. In case you did not make a contract in the way I have described, this is not a marriage and it does not put any responsibility. It is labeled adultery in Islam but responsibility lies only on this man who did not inform you.

 

It, moreover, seems that he is not a practicing Muslim and he deceived you by taking Islam as a way of getting married to you.

 

In this case. If you do not have a contract of marriage in an Islamic way, you must leave him immediately because he is not your husband. I suggest you ask him to do a contract of marriage in an Islamic way and show his commitment to Islam and encourage you to practice your religion, or you cut off all relations with him.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

I am in an arranged marriage of 26 years with 6 kids and it's not OK since from the start. There's no communication between us, no intimacy and nothing to show that we are a couple. This act usually takes days, months and almost a year. I talked to him softly and harshly, I reported to mine and his family but no change,ive been praying but now resolved the watching porn to satisfy my desires because I can't face ALLAH in zina. He divorced me once but I was brought back against his will. Am considering a divorce from a court. Is that OK?



You have a justified reason for divorce. Marriage in this case may cause you not to fulfill the duties of Allah. This is one of the reasons marriage may be dissolved. The judge should give him a year to look for treatment. Otherwise, he will decide the dissolution of your marriage.

Allah Almighty knows best.

Asalam alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh.I would like to know if Islam allows men who have a wet dream early in the morning before fajr then due to extreme coldness one doesn't take bath to clean himself but performs tayamam and goes to pray. My questions are,1.Is that act of performing tayamam and going to pray allowed? 2.Is one allowed to warm water and have ghusul?



You cannot make tayymmum as long as you have water and you can use this water for purification. You must in this case exert all your efforts to get warm water and perform ablution. In your case, you have to make up the prayer you offered in this way.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

Asalahmohalaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh...Since I was kid our aunty (my father's sister) and her husband used to live with us in our home with their five children...Among one of them there was a daughter which is 2 and a half years younger than me...So as I said since we both were very little we used to play, talk with each other and so on until at 16 my family had to leave to shift to the other house due to some personal reasons...but after that we both realized that actually we love each other but now the problem is her family isnt that islamic I mean they do shirk like asking to graves, making food for dead etc...though my cousin doesnt do it or I dont know as I told her not to do it...Now I seriously love her very much but the point is she is nowhere near piousness I mean she doesnt pray five time but she prays four times without knowing why is she praying...I mean she has lack of knowledge..Also I never ever talked to any girl except her due to knowing that any kind of relationship with ghair mehram is haram but in case of her I was totally unaware as I was too little to even understand anything ... So now she became my weakness I dont know what to do...my heart I says I really want her to be mine but my mind reminds me of hadith of Rasulullah SAWS that “The world is provision and the best provision in the world is a righteous woman"..and lots of other hadiths too I am so confused whether to marry her or not as I dont want my path to jannah to be even be a little bit of harder than with a righteous women...Also in my country most of the time I have seen that pious women are married to less religious man and vice versa... So due to this women with weak imaan had to give up their religion or some part of it due to these kind of men while women with strong imaan has to suffer a lot... similarly less religious women having good men make their life miserable life such that at the end of the day they had to say " do whatever you want I am out of this"...I dont want my marriage to be like that... Kindly help me and give me good advice.. Remembering that I love my cousin very much and dont want to see her in jahannum (hellfire)...



The duty of paying your cousin due advice is different from getting married to her. Marriage must be based on full mutual understanding and willingness to set up a righteous family which obeys Allah and His Messenger.

 

My point of view is that you try your best to provide her with since advice. If you decide to get married to her you must agree on the basic regulation which will affect the whole of your life on the long run.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

few months back I had my nikah , let me tell you I’m a female .everything happened by will of both families and we had istikhara n everything going good but im not yet living with him as its only paper marriage but now through some people I’m getting informed that he is AHLE HADITH n I’m from Syed sunni family when his mother was asked she denied it completely but people kept gossiping ,I have spoken to him few times and he is a very humble and nice person , now I want to know in light of Islam that what difference this AHLE HADITHs had as I cannot ask him and is it ok to have nikah with them in case he is, I have no idea of all these different sects in Islam I believe in ALLAH, HIS PROPHETS AND QURAN. But now I’m really afraid of my future life plz for ALLAH sake guide me.



The phrase Ahl al-Hadeeth (people of hadeeth) refers to a group who venerate the Sunnah and seek to propagate it. They adhere to the beliefs of the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).

 

In seeking to understand their religion, they refer to the Qur’an and Sunnah and the interpretation of the best generations. They are not a sect but they represent the mainstream of Islam. It is the saved group and the victorious party as referred to in the hadith of the Prophet “A group of my ummah will continue to prevail, following the truth. They will not be harmed by those who humiliate them until the decree of Allah comes to pass when they are like that.” (Muslim)

 

Due to the spread of many deviant sects and sufi leanings in the Muslim world, many people try to distort the reality of Ahl al-Hadeeth. I suggest you should ask your husband on Ahl al-Hadith and it is further preferred to discuss with him how should he lead his spousal life with you according to the Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

 

I'm a Hindu girl from India, who had a sexual relationship with an Afghan Sunni Muslim boy. We met in college. We love each other a lot. But he told me that now he can't marry me because I won't be able to adjust myself in Afghanistan, since I'm Hindu I'll have to convert to Islam first. We have plans to settle abroad if possible. But I want to know what is the sin of having pre martial sex with a person from another country n another religion in Islam. Can we make this haram relationship halal? Will Allah accept us?



Committing adultery is one of the grave sins which is promised evil consequences in this life and the hereafter, but Allah forgives all sins including adultery. He said in the Quran, “Say, O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” Az-Zumar 39:53)

 

As long as Allah showered His mercy on you by not revealing what you have kept secret, you should not tell anybody else about it. This is confirmed by the Prophet’s saying to Ma’idah who came and admitted that he committed adultery, “Woe be upon you, go back and ask forgiveness of Allah and turn to Him in repentance.” (Muslim)

 

According to the version of Abu Dawud “Ma`idh came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and admitted [having committed adultery] four times in his presence so he ordered him to be stoned to death, but said to Huzzal: If you had covered him with your garment, it would have been better for you. (Abu Dawud) It has been graded as a weak narration).

 

Based on those reports, scholars maintained that it is recommended that a person does not reveal his sins to people and proclaim his repentance between himself and Allah.

 

On how should you seek forgiveness from Allah, you have to make a since repentance.

 

First, your repentance should be meant for the pleasure of Allah. It should not be intended for showing off.

 

Second,  you must express remorse for the sin you have committed.

 

Third, you must give up this sin. Fourth, you must have a strong resolute not to make this sin again.

 

Moreover, you must increase of your righteous and good deeds epically praying in congregation at mosques doing other deeds that draw you closer to Allah. You must also close all cracks and avenues that may give room for the Shaytan such as mingling with women or talking to them without a legal reason.

 

As for getting married to this person, you must first accept Islam based on your own voluntary will. If you become a Muslim, you can get married to him Islamically by having witnesses and a marriage guardian. Otherwise, a Muslim man is not allowed to get married to any non-Muslim woman except the Jews and the Christians. This is a matter of unanimous consensus among all Muslim scholars.

 

Allah says what means, “And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember.”  (Al-Baqarah 2:221)

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

Assalam-o-Alaikum, I want to ask that does Prophet Muhammad (SAW) listen to our salam and answer us? Once I read a hadith stating that On other days angels take our salam to the Prophet (SAW) but on Monday, Thursday and Friday he(SAW) listens to our salam by himself. Is it an authentic Hadith? and does he (SAW) recognises the person who frequently sends peace and blessings on him? I have read somewhere that sending salams to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) as an act of worship is an innovation (bid’s). What do you think about it? it is said that if we say darood once we get the reward of 10 good deeds. If I say darood, what should be my intension? Kindly put some light on this topic. I will be grateful.



Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

 

It is obligatory at least at regular prayers to ask Allah to shower peace upon the Prophet and to pray Allah to bless him. The former is called salam while the latter is called salah.  Allah says what means, “Indeed, Allah confers blessing upon the Prophet, and His angels [ask Him to do so]. O you who have believed, ask [Allah to confer] blessing upon him and ask [Allah to grant him] peace.”  (Al-Ahzab 33:56)

 

According to the report of Ibn Mas`ud, the Prophet has been reported as saying, “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: ‘Allah (peace be upon him) has angels who travel around on Earth conveying to me the Salams of my Ummah.'” (An-Nasa’i)

 

According to another hadith, Abdullah ibn Mas`ud said, “Before the tashahhud was enjoined, when we prayed we used to say: ‘Peace (As-Salam) be upon Allah (peace be upon him), peace be upon Jibril, peace be upon Mika’il.’ The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: ‘Do not say this, for indeed Allah (peace be upon him), the Mighty and Sublime, is As-Salam. Rather say: “At-tahiyyatu lillahi wasalawatu wat-tayibat, as-salamu ‘alaika ayah-Nabiyyu wa rahmatAllahi wa baraktuhu. As-salamu ‘alaina a ‘ala ibad illahis-salihin, ashadu an la ilaha ill Allah, wa ashhadu anna Muhammadan ‘abduhu wa rasuluhu. (All compliments, prayers and pure words are due to Allah. Peace be upon you O Prophet, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings. Peace be upon us and upon the righteous slaves of Allah. I bear witness that that none has the right to be worshipped except Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and messenger.)” (Al-Bukhari An-Nasa’i)

 

Furthermore, it has been narrated from Fatimah, the daughter of the Messenger  who said, “When the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) entered the mosque, he would say, ‘Bismillah wa’l-salam ‘ala Rasool-illah. Allahumma ighfir li dhunoobi waftah li abwab rahmatika (In the name of Allah, and peace be upon the Messenger of Allah. O Allah, forgive me my sins and open to me the gates of Your Mercy).’ And when he exited he would say, Bismillah wa’l-salam ‘ala Rasool-illah. Allahumma ighfir li dhunoobi waftah li abwab fadlika (In the name of Allah, and peace be upon the Messenger of Allah. O Allah, forgive me my sins and open to me the gates of Your Bounty).’” (Ibn Majah)

 

It was also narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “There is no one who sends salams upon me, but Allah will restore to me my soul so that I may return his salams.” (Abu Dawud)

 

Therefore, it is obligatory to send salams and to invoke du`aa’ for the Prophet during regular obligatory and supererogatory prayers, when visiting his grave, at his absence or in his presence.

 

Sending salam means that you ask Allah to make the Prophet free from all deficiencies and shortcomings. Salah means asking Allah to bestow eternal and increased good on him and to glorify his mention.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

Assalamualaykum. There is this one girl with her friend who likes to read books. She likes to read crime, mystery, and horror. She really likes the characters which I know do bad things like murder, and torture. But I know well that she doesn't approve of these doings from her reactions to actual events. Is it wrong for her to like these books and characters? I know this is a trivial matter, but I am curious as to whether it is blameworthy or of no consequence. Thank you.



Any act in Islam should be driven by a voluntary intention. Watching and reading crime and mystery fiction may include scenes which are prohibited to watch or even to read. It may even make a Muslim more familiar with those scenes.

 

By the process of time he/she may watch or read them normally even without denying or showing contempt to them. Furthermore, it may turn his attention from preferred acts of worship such as seeking religious knowledge or praying on time. It may at least turn a person’s heart into a state of oblivion and forgetfulness.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

What is the ruling in Islam when a man is totally not enjoying his sex life with his wife and is seriously affecting him...he does not feel her as a woman and afraid not to put himself into zina



She may be given a year as a chance to treat herself by going to a psychiatrist  or taking medicine. He must help her to get rid of any shyness that may be the result of her problem. If he cannot have sex with her, he can get married to a second wife if it is possible for him. Otherwise he can divorce her after paying her all due rights including bridal gift, maintenance and housing during her waiting period.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

I have recently gotten very sick from eating something haram. I have asked God for forgiveness but I am worried that I will still be punished and die a bad Muslim due to my action. What is the ruling on this? Is God punishing me for what I have done by making me sick and possibly dying?



Major or greater sins are those which are mentioned by name in the Qur’an or hadith as the subject of an explicit threat, prescribed legal penalty, or curse.

Examples of major sins are mentioned in the Quranic verse which describes the true and sincere servants of Allah, “And those who do not invoke with Allah another deity or kill the soul which Allah has forbidden [to be killed], except by right, and do not commit unlawful sexual intercourse. And whoever should do that will meet a penalty. Multiplied for him is the punishment on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein humiliated. Except for those who repent, believe and do righteous work. For them Allah will replace their evil deeds with good. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful. And he who repents and does righteousness does indeed turn to Allah with [accepted] repentance.” (Al-Furqan 25: 68-72)

 

The Prophet (peace be upon him) referred to the top seven major sins in his saying, “Shall I not inform you of the biggest of the great sins?” We said, “Yes, O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)” He said, “To join partners in worship with Allah: to be undutiful to one’s parents.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) sat up after he had been reclining and added, “And I warn you against giving forged statement and a false witness; I warn you against giving a forged statement and a false witness.” The Prophet kept on saying that warning till we thought that he would not stop.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

 

A good reference for all major sins is the the Book of Imam Adh-Dhahabi, Kitab al-Kaba’ir (Book of Enormities) and Imam Ibn Hajar Haythami in Al-Zawajir.

 

Minor sins may be forgiven from prayer to prayer, from one Friday prayer to another, and so forth, as there many acts and deeds through which minor sins are forgiven. The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “the five prayers, Jumu`ah to Jumu`ah and Ramadan to Ramadan entail forgiveness for what is between them as long as the enormities are avoided.”

 

Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Shall I not show you something, which will wipe out your mistakes? They replied, Yes O Messenger of Allah! The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, Complete wudhu with difficulty, steps towards the masjid and waiting for prayer, because this is commitment and self-control”. (Muslim)

 

All what is mentioned in the Qur’an and hadith, of following up a bad deed with a good deed means the wiping away of minor sins and not major sins. Minor sins do not require a specific proportion of small or greater good deeds, but major sins require repentance (tawbah).

 

There are conditions for a valid tawbah as mentioned by Imam An-Nawawi as follows:

 

  1. a) to refrain from the sin
  2. b) to regret having done it
  3. c) and to resolve never to commit again

 

If the repentance is connected with the rights of another human being, repentance has four conditions: the three mentioned above, plus clearing oneself of the obligation owed to the other person.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

Assalamualaikum I have a question that is it halal to read articles regarding marriage like sexual relations, love between husband and wife, rulings about marriage way before marriage because it may make the person think continuosusly about sexual relations?



Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

 

There is no problem of reading articles on issues related to puberty and legal rulings of this stage. Almost all scholars discuss those topics as part of their books on Islamic law.

 

Reading articles on sexuality may cause arousal of sexual desire which may cause a person to either commit adultery or at least masturbation. If not, it may, at least lead him/her think continuously about sex. I think it is more appropriate to discuss those issues between a husband and a wife in an appropriate way.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

Over the years, I have always sensed my marriage and home was toxic and dysfunctional, ; it is only recently that I came to realize that many of my husband's behaviors are emotionally and verbally abusive, and in fact are on par with narcissistic personality disorder. Although he can be kind, loving and wise in his ways, he often lapses into behaviors that are controlling, demanding, and physically and emotionally threatening, He is prone to frightening verbal tirades and lectures laced with insults and disgust, unnecessarily restrictive and finds frequent cause to punish. He is easily angered over the most unpredictable things and seems especially prone to outrage over things that he mistakenly interprets to be lack of respect or gratitude toward him and his status as father/husband/man of the house. He has at times been physically abusive to the children (kicking, punching, knocking to the ground) but always justified it as his Islamic right to discipline, qualifying it with "he knows what he's doing, or "they had it coming anyway," or "you should have seen what I got when I was a kid." He is very religious, and some of his behaviors would also qualify as spiritual abuse. I have tried many times over the years discussing his behavior with him and my unhappiness as a result, and he fluctuates between anger/offense and great remorse, but always returns to his ways. I have put up with it in the hope that Allah will soon make a way out for me, but in the meantime I am very concerned about the effect he is having on my adult daughter, who still lives with us. (Some other adult children of ours were allowed to study away from home but he refused to allow her to do the same.) She can do no right in his eyes, and every little thing about her is a source of irritation or disgust for him and he shows her this through his facial expressions and how he speaks to her. He refuses her the same opportunities and privileges that her other college age siblings have received, but offers no explanation for the different treatment other than "he knows what he is doing" and then threatens me not to bring it up again. It seems she is his scapegoat, and when I try to intercede on her behalf I am treated with hostility by him. My daughter is nearly 23, wears hijab, is a serious, introverted masters student who excels at school and does not get into trouble, yet he never praises her, acts suspicious of her as though she is up to no good, complains about what she costs him financially, and does not allow her normal minor freedoms to maintain friendships with other girls. He demands she get permission to accept an invitation to visit to a friend in her home, and will frequently say no simply because "he has the right as her father to say no and she should accept that." As a result of this, she is very anxious and unhappy, feels victimized and disliked by her father, and has a very strained relationship with him. When she does try to engage with him, he acts indifferent and disinterested, or will find something she has just said to criticize, but will later complain that she doesn't talk to him or try to be part of the family. We all walk on eggshells around him, but with her the problem is noticeably more severe. My question is, is she allowed to move out our home without his permission? Would I be wrong to help facilitate that as I am very concerned about her mental health if she continues to be victimized by her father's toxic behaviors? Jazak Allahu khayran.



I fully understand the gravity of this father’s behavior who looks at his children that they never grow up and looks at all circumstances as unchangeable. He does not realize differences in age, time, generations, etc.

 

Whatever this father does is not Islamic. Islam provides the father with the right to properly guide his family to the straight path. It does not provide him with an authoritarian power to dictate whatever he likes or sees Islamic. Islam instructs mercy and compassion as the basis of relations among family members.

 

Abu Hurairah reported that al-Aqra’ ibn Habis saw Allah’s Apostle (peace be upon him) kissing Hasan. He said:

 

I have ten children, but I have never kissed any one of them, whereupon Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said: He who does not show mercy (towards his children), no mercy would be shown to him.

 

I think letting your daughter to leave home may aggravate the problem and make it more complicated. You need to discuss the issue frankly with your husband to make him know that he has already did a very negative impact on the personality of your daughter. You must take all possible means to make him recognize the problem to help you solve it. Moreover, you should help your daughter to get a husband who may get her out of these circumstances.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

 

Is the concept of a side-friend allowed in Islam? Is a non-Mehram man allowed to enter the bride/groom's room and help in the preparation of personal marital issues?



There is no room for a friendship between a man and a woman. `Uqbah ibn `Amir narrated that the Messenger of Allah said: “Beware of entering upon women.” So a man from the Ansar said: ‘”O Messenger of Allah! What do you think about Hamu? So he said: “The Hamu is death.” (At-Tirmidhi)

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

If a wife requests her husband to take her to a place of privacy post nikah like a hotel and not his parents house for a few days, is it liable or mandatory on him to do so? What are the wife's rights here, given that the house is filled with guests and the girl is not comfortable starting her married life there? What are the rights of a wife in a situation like this? Can a husband ignore her request and bring her home?



A wife has the right to live with her husband alone in a private house. She cannot be forced to live with her husband’s parents or even serve them. If she does not feel comfortable to start her life in a house which is filled with guests, I think it good to take her out and spend some time in a hotel.

 

A husband should care about the sense of modesty and shyness she has especially at the beginning of their life.

 

Taking her to  a hotel upon her request is based on the financial status of the husband. If it is beyond his capacity, he does not have to afford it.

 

Allah says what means: “Let a man of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose provision is restricted – let him spend from what Allah has given him. Allah does not charge a soul except [according to] what He has given it. Allah will bring about, after hardship, ease.” (At-Talaq 65:7)

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

I couldn't pray 2 consecutive days because of my illness related to muscular and bone aches fever and severe headaches. The 3rd day when i finally felt better I thought I would pray the prayers of the same day. But I was wondering wether I should have pray while I was terribly sick and If it's bad if I try to make up for the missed ones



You have to make up all prayers you missed during your illness. It was narrated that Anas said: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever forgets a prayer, let him pray it when he remembers it.”  (An-Nasa`i)

 

According to the version of Muslim, here is no explanation for it, except this. Qatada said: (Allah says): “And observe prayer for remembrance of Me” (Muslim)

 

Prayer does not drop even if a person is on the verge of death. If a person cannot pray standing, he/she can pray while sitting or lying down or at any position possible.

 

Even at time of war while Muslims are engaged in fighting, they have to offer prayers in congregation.

 

It was narrated from `Abdullah ibn Buraidah that his father said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: ‘The covenant that stands between us and them is the Salah; whoever abandons it, he has committed disbelief.'” (An-Nasa’i)

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

I have committed adultery and I know it is a very grave sin which I have repented to Allah sincerely to. I have become a better person and I have a completely different outlook on life. I am not in the mindset I used to be when I committed adultery anymore. But my mom is the biggest problem right now. I know she is hurting because of what I've done but now she insists on everyone moving to a different state, she doesn't allow me to go to school anymore and she doesn't want me to work. I'm stuck at home all the time. She assumes when I see a person at the store, I have committed adultery with them and she talks down on me to my siblings and family. what should I tell her?



Committing adultery is one of the grave sins which is promised evil consequences in this life and the hereafter, but Allah forgives all sins including adultery. He said in the Quran:

 

“Say, O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” Az-Zumar 39:53)

 

You have already repented your sin only seeking the pleasure of Allah. There must be a kind of test from Allah to confirm the sincerity of your repentance.

 

You should concentrate on how to please your mother, show her the best of your behavior and consider the great harm you have caused to her. By showing her good conduct,  she will definitely change her attitude towards you.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

assalamualaikum, I am currently a college student and I must take out student loans. They are all interest student loans and I don't qualify for the interest free ones. However, there is a jewish interest free student loan but In order to get that student loan I must say I am jewish. Is it permissible for me to deceive and say I am jewish or should I commit riba?



Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

 

Taking or giving interest is absolutely prohibited. This is one of the most heinous and major sins in Islam. Allah says what means: “Those who consume interest cannot stand [on the Day of Resurrection] except as one stands who is being beaten by Satan into insanity. That is because they say, “Trade is [just] like interest.” But Allah has permitted trade and has forbidden interest. So whoever has received an admonition from his Lord and desists may have what is past, and his affair rests with Allah. But whoever returns to [dealing in interest or usury] – those are the companions of the Fire; they will abide eternally therein.” (Al-Baqarah 2:275)

 

It has also been proven that the Prophet (peace be upon him) cursed the one who consumes riba and the one who pays it. (Al-Bukhari)

 

He further said: “A dirham which a man consumes as riba knowingly is worse before Allah than thirty-six acts of zina.” (Ahmad and At-Tabaraani)

 

He also said: “There are seventy-two types of riba, the least of which is like a man committing incest with his mother.” (At-Tabarani, al-Awsat; it is graded as an authentic hadith).

 

If you have a case of severe necessity such as the indispensability of having this specific type of education, you must consult a scholar on whether the law of necessity applies to your case or not.

 

In your case you have two violations: 1) committing a clear prohibition by taking a loan which includes interest and 2) committing a lie for getting something prohibited.

 

My view is that you must avoid such a transaction. Allah will surely compensate you with a lawful means of continuing your education without committing any of those major sins.

 

As a Muslim, our ultimate goal is to please Allah and to fulfill our obligations towards Him.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

Assalam Aleikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu...... Please help me explain about photos in islam because most of religious leaders in my country preach against them yet some of the most popular and learned sheikhs i follow online take them and normally post them.....Thank you



Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

 

Photography is the taking of pictures of living and/or animate beings such as people and birds. Taking pictures is prohibited in Islam. This is based on a number of Prophetic tradition which include the following:

 

On the authority of `Abdullah ibn Mas`ud who said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: ‘Among the people who will be most severely punished on the Day of Resurrection will be the image-makers.'” (An-Nasa’i)

 

On the authority of Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him and his father) who said:

 

I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) saying, “Every painter will go to Hell, and for every portrait he has made, there will be appointed one who will chastise him in the Hell.” Ibn ‘Abbas said: If you have to do it, draw pictures of trees and other inanimate things. (Al-Bukhari and  Muslim)

 

Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Allah, may He be exalted, says: ‘Who does more wrong than the one who tries to create something like My creation? Let him create a grain of wheat or a kernel of corn.'” (Al-Bukhari)

`Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “Shall I not send you on the same mission as the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) sent me? Do not leave any built-up tomb without levelling it, and do not leave any picture in any house without erasing it.” (Muslim and An-Nisa’i)

There are two ways for taking pictures:

 

1) drawing a picture by hand. This is prohibited according to the previous hadith. It is an imitation of the creation of Allah.

 

2) taking a photo by using a camera. Scholars differed on it. Some of them maintained that it is permissible since it does not involve any imitation of the creation of Allah. This is similar to looking at the mirror. An image is just a reflection of a real face which is taken by a camera. It is only prohibited if it includes the images of women, nudity, etc.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

 

We know, in the time of end days of our menstruation, if any yellow or brownish discharge come after white discharge (tuhr) then this yellow or brown discharge will not be considered as menstruation but if one see a white discharge but after that she see a reddish discharge or if one sees a white discharge and after that sees a discharge which may not be blood but reddish in color then will it be considered as menstruation. Or if someone see reddish discharge after complete dryness then will it be considered as menstruation?



If a woman sees a reddish or yellowish discharge after complete dryness, it will be regarded like the discharge of urine. She has to wash herself, clean her clothes and perform ablution before making prayers. This is based on the report of Umm Umm `Atiyah (may Allah be pleased with her) who said, “After we were pure, we did not consider the yellow or muddy discharge to be anything (i.e. of the menses blood).” (Al-Bukhari and Abu Dawud)

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

First confusion, If it happens that during the time of end days of menstruation one put tissue in her private part and see brown discharge and just after that moment she put the tissue in her private part again and she it comes out clean or any transparent color discharge come out, then will it be considered as the end of menstruation? I mean it’s not like long time after brown discharge the white discharge come or it’s not like white discharge is connected to brown discharge, it is-. in the first attempt the brown discharge come and right after that in the second attempt the white discharge come Second confusion, if it happens that during the time of end days of menstruation one put tissue in her private part and then white discharge come and right after that she put the tissue again and brown discharge come, then will it be considered as end of the menstruation.



A woman can recognize the end of her menstruation period by one of two signs: 1) emission of white discharge and 2) complete dryness. This is confirmed by wiping her private parts with a piece of cotton without having any trace of blood or yellowish or brownish discharge on it.

 

In case a woman sees a brown discharge after seeing a white discharge, she should regard it like urine by washing her private parts and renewing her wudu.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

Asalamualykum! I have menstruation problem! sometimes they exceed more than a week! Can I fast after a week as its cz of illness! Even if i start taking medcine it will take 3 days to stop and ramzan will end. Otherwise my whole ramzan will be wasted! Hope to hear from u soon!



Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

 

If you continue having menses with the same color and smell, all this period will count a part of your menstruation. If bleeding exceeds 15 days, you should count whatever exceeds the 15 days as a normal bleeding. You must then resume your fasting and prayers.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

Assalamu alaicoum! Some people assure that such acts of worship as namaz, fasting, hajj came to Islam from pagans. For instance, they say that Zoroastrians also prayed 5 times a day, and hajj was performed by the pagans of Makkah before Islam. Please, comment on that.



Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

 

Some acts of worship might have been practiced before the advent of Islam such as fasting. Allah says what means:

“O you who have believed, decreed upon you is fastening as it was decreed upon those before you that you may become righteous.” (Al-Baqarah 2:138)

 

Fasting in Islam is different from fasting enjoined on previous nation in two ways: 1) the way it is practiced. Fasting in Islam is confined to abstaining from food, drink and sex from dawn to sunset. Fasting in previous scriptures included abstaining from speaking.

 

2) fasting in Islam is purely dedicated and offered out of full submission and surrender to the command of Allah. This is different from fasting which is not meant for Allah’s sake. This is the case of all other religious duties which are different in the way they are practiced and in the goal for which it achieves.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

Good morning brother's, My question is in the area of marriage a man want to married a he have promise, but they have commented unlawful sexual act with each other do they still marriage or not.



Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

 

A male and a female who committed fornication may marry to each other after making due repentance from this heinous and major sin. In this case, she does not have to observe a waiting period.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.

 

Asalamu alaykum. Am suffering from alopecia (hair loss condition) there's this one treatment I could do which is called scalp micropigmentation, it involves tattooing of the head making it look like a shaved head. Is this permissible in Islam



Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

 

Primarily, tattooing is prohibited in Islam. This is based on the report of Ibn `Umar who said, The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) cursed the maker and wearer of a wig and the tattooer and the one who is tattooed. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

 

A Muslim can tattoo a part of his body in case it becomes the only medical treatment available for him/her. This is based on report of Abdullah ibn Mas`ud (may Allah be pleased with him) who heard the Prophet (peace be upon him) prohibiting women from plucking hair from their faces, making spaces in between their teeth, making or wearing a wig, the tatooer and the one who is tattooed except for those who have a disease.  (Ahmad)

 

Therefore, if your case of alopecia can be treated through hair transplant, you cannot refer to scalp micopigmentation. If you find no other alternative treatment, you can do it even if it involves tattooing of the head.

 

Allah Almighty knows best.