Q:

Thank you for this chance, i hope Allah show me the right way through this question and the Scholars who will answer this.

I had a secret habbit (I have did mastrubation) and I decide to stop commit to it last month. There was a man who came to approach me that he wanted me in his life. And I told him about my secret habit and he thinks i lose my virginity (which I’m not sure that is true)

How is it in Islam, should I tell about this to next person that I approach with? Or I should just keep it because it was Aib (a really bad secret) and let Allah be The One who know about it.

Please, help me about this. I’m trying to start the new chapter of my life from the haram habit. Pray for me. Thank you very much in advance. I hope the answers will be based on the Quran and Hadith

A:

Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving.

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Prophet Muhammad.

Masturbation is prohibited as inferred from the Quranic verses that read, “The ones, moreover, who are ever vigilant as to [the chastity of] their secret parts- except [in associating] with their wives, or [with] whomever their hands may rightfully possess, for, then, they are not blameworthy; but whoever seeks [ a way]  beyond this, then it is they who are the transgressors.” [23:5-7]

Therefore, sister, you need to repent sincerely to Allah and have strong resolve not to do this again. Part of this repentance is to quit all the practices that may stimulate your desire, such as gazing at members of the opposite sex, watching explicit contents, etc.

You need also to keep your time busy with useful activities, because leisure time is a big opportunity for the Satan to incite you for evil acts. Find religious friends, stay away from the internet as far as possible, try to memorize the Quran, practice fasting to break this appetite, try to serve your community through philanthropic activities, etc.

These are just examples of things that fill your time and keep you away from thinking about sexuality. Allah (Exalted is He) said, “As to those who do not find [means] for marriage, let them keep themselves [pure and] chaste, until Allah enriches them from His bounty.” [24:33]

A Muslim has also to conceal his/her evil affairs. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said, “Avoid such filthy sins that Allah has forbidden. Still whoever commits any of these let him maintain the concealment bestowed by Allah upon him [by not disclosing one’s evil affairs] and let him repent to Allah…” [Al-Bayhaqi]

So, keep this secret to yourself and just repent sincerely to Allah. Sincere repentance renders one as sinless as he was when first born. Pray to Allah to keep you steadfast on repentance and righteousness and to grant you a pious husband to establish a true Muslim family that seeks the pleasure of Allah.

Allah knows best.