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Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
In this fatwa:
So, the couple is free to stimulate each other in any way as long as the relation is kept private and they are safe from being watched by anyone else. The problem with Skype and the like programs is their vulnerability to be spied on.
In his response to your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states,
Indeed, the intimate relation is a completely private one. It must be kept only between the married couples. It is also impermissible for any of the couple to tell anyone about what they do during their intimate relations.
As a married couple, you can stimulate each other and find satisfaction as long as it is all between both of you and there is no fear of it being seen or watched by anyone else.
I am not so tech-savvy to determine whether the method you are using is strictly confidential and cannot be visible to others. If it can be wholly confidential, I don’t see any reason to prohibit it. However, such methods of stimulation are allowed only as long as you are far away.
Allah Almighty knows best.
Editor’s note: This fatwa is from Ask the Scholar’s archive and was originally published at an earlier date.