Calling Wife by a Shortened Name that Resembles a Man’s Name: OK?

28 December, 2016
Q As-Salamu alaykum. I have a wife whose name is Malika. We call her Malik for short as we heard the Prophet (peace be upon him) used to call Aishah by Aish. Can this be authentically attributed to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and is it permissible to call my wife by this name or is it for men only, may Allah reward you?

Answer

Wa `alaykum As-Salamu waRahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. 

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

Dear questioner, we would like to thank you for the great confidence you place in us, and we implore Allah Almighty to help us serve His cause and render our work for His Sake.

There is no reason why you should not address your wife as Malik or Malik, or whatever is the norm in your language, by way of showing affection and omitting the final sound, or by way of shortening the name, so long as that is acceptable to her and is normal according to your customs.

Answering your question, we would like the following fatwa published on www.islamqa.info:

Al-Bukhari narrated that ‘A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said one day: “O ‘A’ish, here is Jibreel, greeting you with salam (peace).” I said: And upon him be peace and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.

The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) called out to his wife ‘A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) by saying “O ‘A’ish,” omitting the ta’ marbootah, which is called tarkheem (apocopation) which means omitting the final sound of the name, by way of showing affection or shortening the name.

Ibn Battal (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

With regard to his saying “O ‘A’ish”, this comes under the heading of tarkheem (apocopation), which the Arabs did by way of shortening the name. (Ibn Battal, Sharh Saheeh al-Bukhari 9/350)

An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

Her saying “and he said, ‘What is the matter with you, O ‘A’ish?’” indicates that it is permissible to omit the final sound of names (apocopation), so long as that is not offensive to the one whose name is shortened. (An-Nawawi, Sharh Muslim 7/43)

Addressing one’s wife with a shortened form of her name is permissible, and there is nothing wrong with it, even if the name, after shortening, resembles the form of men’s names. The name ‘A’ishah may be shortened to ‘A’ish, which is a man’s name, yet despite that it is mentioned in the Sunnah, because the context differentiates between the masculine and feminine usage of the name, so no confusion results from that. Using the form ‘A’ish when addressing a woman only occurs in the context of calling by the shortened form of the name, and not in the context of narrating a report and the like, whereas if a man is called ‘A’ish, it will appear thus in most contexts, and if anyone wants to shorten a name by omitting the final sound, there is no reason not to do so, and the latter part of the name may be dropped, as is the rule.

Allah Almighty knows best.