However, now a week later we are on honeymoon. We tried to do it three to four times and each time I started crying begging him to stop. We tried using lube gel and his spit as well.
I am just not turned on at all. I can’t put anything inside not even my own finger.
I need help. I suggested he gets a second wife and he got upset.
His sister said her first time was so painful as well that her husband had to cover her mouth to stop her sounds of scream. I just want it to be easy and not painful at all. Help me!
Answer
Salam Alaikum,
In this counseling video, you will learn:
• Go to your female doctor and talk about your issue. Check out whether you are physically OK.
• Maybe seek help from a sex therapist.
• Utilize helps that are available because they are available.
• Try relaxing techniques.
• If you have ever experienced any abuse in your life, it will make it hard for you to have a sexual relationship.
• You are not alone. This is your test from Allah.
• Take your time. You do not need to force this.
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