03 September, 2019
Q
Salaam Alaikum,
My wife constantly gets stares from other guys who look her up and down and stare at her awrah.
It angers me and really annoys me. I tried to tell her but she thinks I am blaming it on her about them looking when in fact I am only trying to make her understand. What can I do to make myself feel less angry and down about myself?
My wife constantly gets stares from other guys who look her up and down and stare at her awrah.
It angers me and really annoys me. I tried to tell her but she thinks I am blaming it on her about them looking when in fact I am only trying to make her understand. What can I do to make myself feel less angry and down about myself?
Answer
Salam Alaikum,
In this counseling video, you will learn:
• First and foremost, you need to marry someone who you are comfortable with even if he/she doesn’t change anything.
• Dressing more modestly must come from her. You cannot force it on her.
• Give her the men’s perspective on women. Maybe she is not fully aware of how beauty impact men.
• Check yourself as well: do you only look at your wife on the street? Do you not have problems watching women online? Focus on your own discipline first.
• Check whether you have some kind of insecurity in yourself in regards to her beauty.
• Focus on your wife as a person; do not objectify her.