Men Keep Rejecting Me; I’m Depressed

09 April, 2019
Q Assalamualaikum.

Nowadays many girls face problems when it comes to marriage, and even after their proposals get fixed. I was proposed to a couple of years ago, but it didn’t work out because of his contradicting words and actions before and after the proposal.

I went through and faced many problems and hardships in my life. A part of me could hardly bear the situation and accept reality. Even those I thought to be good treated me the worse. The faith I had towards selfish people lead a way to betrayal.

The past is haunting me; however, I am trying my best to move on by prayer, duaa, and recitation. I enjoy reading, but I end up thinking of the past again and I cannot be distracted. I avoid my family sometimes because I fear they will bring up a topic about my past as they don’t hesitate to talk about the sensitive topic.

I am trying my best to become strong even by going to work, but I keep getting rejected. I tried giving marriage a second chance and consider what happened before I am very careful about it but to no success.

I used to pray thahajjud and fast. I even googled duas for marriage and would recite surah Yasin every day, but nothing ever works out. My parents are worried and wondering why I am so late in getting married. Despite me being in doubt myself, I try to reassure them that we must wait until Allah wills it to work out and be patient and trust in Allah.

Is there anything I could specifically do to help my situation? Should I continue with my supplications as I do? Please advise me.

Answer

In this counseling video, you will learn:

Think about what you can learn from this difficult situation.

Past experiences are to strengthen you.

Listen to your instincts.

Keep going; keep knocking on doors.

Have the vision of your life and ask Allah to help you on that path.

Don’t let other people’s close-minded views stop you from achieving your life goals.

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About Megan Wyatt
Megan Wyatt is the founder of Wives of Jannah where she offers training programs, live workshops, and relationship coaching for wives and couples. She is a certified Strategic Intervention coach with specialized certifications for working with women and marital relationships and has been coaching and mentoring Muslims globally since 2008. She shares her passion for Islamic personal development in her Passionate Imperfectionist community. She is a wife and homeschooling mother with four children residing in Southern California.