A Long-Distance Marriage: Shall I Divorce My Wife?

03 April, 2018
Q Assalam o Aalaikum. I am a 35 years old male from Pakistan. I need to ask a few things. I got married 2 years ago. Due to the nature of my job, we couldn't live together. But we had contact over the phone. Somehow I never felt comfortable with this marriage. My wife was quite a nice lady. But still, we two had a lot of differences regarding the future. Her attitude sometimes gave me the feeling that she is a burden I am carrying. Eventually, we had a fight on the phone a few months later. She left my home and started living with her mother. Since then I am trying to bring her back. But she simply says that we two can't be together. She has asked for divorce too. I am very much confused. Sometimes I feel that divorce is the only option and sometimes I think that we two can live together. One thing I want to mention is that I was not willing to go for this marriage, but my mother pushed me to do it. Even after marriage, I remained under stress. We have no kids. We two do not talk to each other. It’s been more than 20 months that we are living separately. My question is that should I go for divorce or not. Should I do istakhara prior to finalizing the divorce because so far all attempts to restore our marriage has been failed.

Answer

Salam Aleikom,

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About Megan Wyatt
Megan Wyatt is the founder of Wives of Jannah where she offers training programs, live workshops, and relationship coaching for wives and couples. She is a certified Strategic Intervention coach with specialized certifications for working with women and marital relationships and has been coaching and mentoring Muslims globally since 2008. She shares her passion for Islamic personal development in her Passionate Imperfectionist community. She is a wife and homeschooling mother with four children residing in Southern California.