I Failed as a Man & a Husband

06 January, 2020
Q Salaam alaykum.

My wife is expecting a child soon insha'Allah. I lost my job almost two years ago. We have been struggling with renting, the food.

Our marriage is terrible. We have relatives around Alhamdulilah to help us out, but I feel like as a man and husband I failed.

I feel like I'm being outcast of my family because of my situation. My wife is heavily pregnant and cries almost every day.

We argue and we fight a lot. She feels like I'm blaming her for our situation.

I got a court case because I couldn't keep up with my bills. Everyone I knew and helped in the past is nowhere to be found.

Answer

Salam Alaikum,

In this counseling video, you will learn:

Something is better than nothing. Work anything you can get, even if it is not what you used to work.

Tell all your friends and family that you are looking for a job.

Use social media to find a job. Network.

Ask for people’s opinions on your CV.

Learn something, get certified that could open new doors to you.

Being at home with your pregnant wife is a huge blessing. Don’t feel you failed. Support her.

 

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About Megan Wyatt
Megan Wyatt is the founder of Wives of Jannah where she offers training programs, live workshops, and relationship coaching for wives and couples. She is a certified Strategic Intervention coach with specialized certifications for working with women and marital relationships and has been coaching and mentoring Muslims globally since 2008. She shares her passion for Islamic personal development in her Passionate Imperfectionist community. She is a wife and homeschooling mother with four children residing in Southern California.