Answer
In this counseling answer:
No one can be controlled against his/her will. Therefore, the counselor advises the questioner to sit down, write her concerns in details about the situation, and share them with the father. He needs to take responsibility fo his actions.
Dear Sister,
First, rather than focusing on your stepmother or her use of black magic, we would like to shift the burden onto your father. The reality is that no one can be used “like a child” against his will. Your father is not a passive observer in this situation and, therefore, he needs to take responsibility for his actions.
He needs to know that he is not only hurting his own children from the first marriage but that his new wife does not have his best interests in mind. You cannot begin to address this situation without first making sure that you have done everything possible to have your father involved actively in addressing your concerns. He is your father and you have certain rights over him.
Sit down and write out your concerns so that you are being as factual and objective as possible. Then, make sure to bring to your father’s attention some of those written concerns. Remember, he is your father first and then he is the husband of your stepmother!
Second, it is not clear to us whether you still live with your birth mother or you actually live with your father and stepmother. The reason this is an important point is that you could petition your father to allow you to live with your birthmother.
Perhaps you also need to be in touch with your birth mother so that she knows how difficult life is for you living with your father. You said your birth mother does already know that your father is not behaving in a normal way so perhaps you could convince her to advocate having you live with her instead. The idea is not to abandon your father necessarily but rather to have you grow up in comfort and solace with your birth mother rather than to constantly worry about the black magic of your stepmother.
Finally, please seek the help of Allah (swt) through lots of du`aa’ (supplication). Your family is very important to you and you need them to be able to deal with the challenges you are facing. Be careful not to delay addressing this situation for too long. Remember to be factual and objective as much as possible and make du`aa’ to Allah (swt) for the best.
And Allah (swt) knows best.
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