When I told my mom's family, he became mad at me and doesn’t give me school transportation money anymore. He doesn’t give me any money for anything. He said I should and do prostitution to get money. I have no one to go to because no one cares about me. I have a few relatives who are selfish. I cannot tell them the law. They will make fun of me. Please, help me.
Answer
In this counseling answer:
• Seek assistance from someone outside of your family.
• You could look if there are any groups or support organizations locally to you where you may discuss this matter.
• We have suggested for you some helpline services in your area, try to make use of some of them, in addition to other available avenues of help.
Assalamu alaikum wa Rahmatullah wa barakatuh sister,
This is a difficult situation that you are in, but it is very important that you get some support for this for the sake of your well-being.
Whilst you’re feeling down, it probably does feel like no one cares about you. However, it is highly likely that there are some that do as much as you feel like they don’t.
Perhaps, the best place to start, since you don’t feel comfortable to talk to anyone in your family about it yet, is to seek assistance from someone outside of your family. As you come to feel more confident and comfortable to tell your story, you will feel better equipped and able to talk to family members about the issue. You may find that those you feel don’t care actually do.
You could look if there are any groups or support organizations locally to you where you may discuss this matter. They will be equipped with the beat information locally to you regarding where to get direct help and assistance with this matter.
In sha Allah, this will open the doors to other solutions for you too to be in a stronger position to escape the abuse.
Editor’s note:
We have collected for you all the helplines in your country you can reach out for help. Please, sister, do not hesitate to do this step!
Human Development Initiatives (For Women, Children, and Youth)
0806 353 1872
Project Alert on Violence Against Women
Tel: 08180091072
Email: [email protected]
Child Abuse
08085753932/ 08102678442
Domestic Violence
08057542266, 08102678443
You could look into online groups as well. Whilst they can’t give you the same level of support, they can be a very useful source of comfort where you can talk more freely and get advice from sisters who have been through the same situation.
Aside from seeking support for this specific issue, it is good for your psychological health to be with others and talk to others, even if the conversation is not about the abuse. Having social support will help curb the feeling of loneliness that you seem to be experiencing.
May Allah bring you to ease and guide you to someone who will be able to support you through this.
Amen,
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