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I Feel I Have Been Played With

12 June, 2017
Q I have been married for a year and a half now. The marriage has broken down. He refuses to have anything to do with me. My current circumstances are also that I am struggling. I feel as if it was just a big joke and I feel used. Please advise what I can do about this. He refused even to go and register the marriage. Nobody is bothering to sort it out, therefore, I feel as if I have just been played with by a number of people.

Answer

Aisha Mohammad
12 June, 2017

As salamu alaykum sister,

I am sad to hear of the confusing time you are having with your marriage.  I do not know if you live together, or not, if you ever did or if there is family there to help you.  I am not clear on how long this has been going on or if you’re even in contact with him anymore.

My dear sister, the best advice I can give you is to go to the Masjid where you were married (if possible) and speak to the imam who married you and give him specific details as to what has happened and what is going on.  As I know very little at this point, I can only refer you to the imam as well as social services in your area if you are struggling financially as he left.

Please sister, your a valuable, pious, precious Muslima.  I do not know who these people are or why they treated you like this but Allah will deal with them.

Please do resubmit your question with more details if further advices are needed.  You are in our prayers.

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About Aisha Mohammad
Aisha received her PhD in psychology in 2000 and an MS in public health in 2009. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years for Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. Aisha specializes in trauma, depression, anxiety, substance abuse, marriage/relationships issues, as well as community-cultural dynamics. She is certified in Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and is also a certified Life Coach. Aisha works at a Family Resource Center, and has a part-time practice in which she integrates healing and spirituality using a holistic approach. Aisha plans to open a holistic care counseling center for Muslims and others in the New York area in the future, in sha' Allah. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocate for social & food justice. In her spare time she enjoys her family, martial arts classes, Islamic studies as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.