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As-Salamu ‘Alaykum Brother,

I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your precious two-year-old. Inna Lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raajroon. (“Surely we belong to Allah and to Him shall we return.”) May Allah (swt) grant you ease during this most difficult time.

While I am not an Islamic scholar, I can offer the following which you will find helpful, in sha’ Allah.

Aboutislam’s scholar says: “The children of Muslims who die prior to the age of puberty will go to Paradise.

Al-Bara’ ibn `Aazib (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates: When Ibrahim, son of the Prophet, died, the Prophet (saw) said, “Verily, there is a wet-nurse for him in Paradise.” (Bukhari)

As you have lost your beloved child, I encourage you to talk, find comfort in close family members or friends. While everyone grieves differently and at their own pace, I encourage you to seek solace in close kin as well as Allah (swt), the Most Merciful. This is a time to draw closer to Allah (swt) as He is our refuge and He knows best.

There may be times of anger, denial, guilt or intense sadness. The grieving process comes and goes like waves. Little reminders can trigger great emotions. These are all normal when someone we love passes, especially a child. Spending more time with family is as important now as spending time in the Masjid, praying, making du’aa’, and reading Qur’an for comfort.

How Can You Help Yourself?

Keep a journal; sometimes it is helpful to put down in words what you are feeling and thinking.

Talk about your child, if you want to. Although it may be painful, it can help you heal.

Take time to do a familiar activity with your family. This helps to provide stability when your world is feeling chaotic.

Join a support group; parents often respond that becoming involved in bereavement groups helped them through their loss and with their relationship.

Seek therapy when you, or others close to you, feel that your grief is becoming too difficult to bear, or is too prolonged.
When parents lose a child, it affects the whole community. Don’t feel shy to draw upon your Muslim community, your brothers and sisters for help if needed. Maybe it is help with cooking, or tending to other children, or running errands, or just someone to visit and provide companionship and love for the sake of Allah (swt). Allah (swt) loves a helpful heart especially in times of crisis such as the loss of a child.

As far as specific du’aa’s for an adult or a child who has passed, please re-submit the question to our “Ask the Scholar” section as stated I am not an Islamic scholar. However, you may want to have a look at the well-known book of du’aa’ for Muslims, the Fortress of Muslim by Sa’id Bin Wahf Al-Qahtani.

Lastly, du’aa’s made by others for the family is Sunnah, so please, in sha’ Allah, ask others to remember you in their prayers. We send our condolences and we keep you in our prayers.

Salam,

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