I'm a mother of 2 kids, 12 and 4. My eldest daughter is fasting Ramadan Alhamdulelah , but due to long hours of fasting, she can not complete her fasting from dawn to dusk. In the mid-day, she feels tired and breaks her fast.
I know she is obligated to fast Ramadan, but I feel pity for her. I need your advice on how to encourage her to bear the burden of fasting to get the blessing of the holy month.
Answer
In this counseling answer:
•I kindly suggest that when she gets tired, divert her attention with something fun or invigorating that will take her attention off of her fatigue and place it on another interest.
•You may have to do this many times to condition her mind and body and strengthen her resolve. After Iftar, tell her how proud of her you are and how pleased Allah SWT is with her efforts.
As-Salamu alaykum sister,
While I am not an Islamic Scholar, I do suggest encouraging her with positive reinforcement, kind words, and gentle encouragement. It is difficult at this age and we must guide with patience and love insha’Allah.
While she is 12, I am not sure of her maturity level as each child is different, however, 12-13 is about the age when children begin fasting.
I kindly suggest that when she gets tired, divert her attention with something fun or invigorating that will take her attention off of her fatigue and place it on another interest.
You may have to do this many times to condition her mind and body and strengthen her resolve. After Iftar, tell her how proud of her you are and how pleased Allah SWT is with her efforts.
Even if she has failed. By reinforcing the positive it will give her a sense of accomplishment and insha’Allah will inspire her to try harder.
Pray with your daughter and make duaa to Allah that she becomes used to fasting and becomes able to complete it. Allah is most merciful.
You’re in our prayers sister please let us know how you are doing.
Salam,
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