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In this counseling answer:
•Give your full attention when your child starts a conversation whenever possible.
•Make sure that you have your child’s attention before you speak.
•Acknowledge, encourage, and praise all attempts to speak. Show that you understand the word or phrase by fulfilling the request, if appropriate.
•Pause after speaking. This gives your child a chance to continue the conversation.
•Continue to build vocabulary. Introduce a new word and offer its definition, or use it in a context that is easily understood.
As-Salamu `Alaykum my dear sister,
Sometimes, silence is not golden and talking with your child, not to or at your child is important in the development of their speech, self-expression and vocabulary. There are developmental milestones when the brain is more able to absorb language along with the fact that child vary in rate of development. Developing the mechanisms (the jaw, lips and tongues, nose, breathing, related muscles) begins in the first few month of life when the baby ‘coos’ and babbles a lot.
In general, the milestone for a five year old can be gaged by answering the following questions:
| Your Answer | Yes | No |
| Understands more than 2,000 words. | ___ | ___ |
| Understands time sequences (what happened first, second, third, etc.). | ___ | ___ |
| Carries out a series of three directions. | ___ | ___ |
| Understands rhyming. | ___ | ___ |
| Engages in conversation. | ___ | ___ |
| Sentences can be 8 or more words in length. | ___ | ___ |
| Uses compound and complex sentences. | ___ | ___ |
| Describes objects. | ___ | ___ |
| Uses imagination to create stories. | ___ | ___ |
Between 4 – 5 years of age in general a child can:
*Uses sentences that give lots of details (e.g. “I like to read my books”).
*Tells stories that stick to a topic.
*Communicates easily with other children and adults.
*Says most sounds correctly except a few like l, s, r, v, z, ch, sh, th.
*Pays attention to a short story and answers simple questions about it.
*Hears and understands most of what is said at home and in school.
Typical developmental problems for this age group include:
*Hearing difficulties
*Problems following complex/compound directions
*Difficulty with conversational interaction
*Poor vocabulary acquisition
*Difficulty learning preschool concepts, such as colors and counting
*Stuttering
*Difficulties with grammar and syntax
*Unclear speech
Around six years of age, in addition to the above consonants are mastered:
*f, v, sh, zh, th,
*He should have concepts of 7
*Speech should be completely intelligible and socially useful
*Should be able to tell one a rather connected story about a picture, seeing relationships
*Between objects and happenings
You Can:
-Give your full attention when your child starts a conversation whenever possible.
-Make sure that you have your child’s attention before you speak.
-Acknowledge, encourage, and praise all attempts to speak. Show that you understand the word or phrase by fulfilling the request, if appropriate.
-Pause after speaking. This gives your child a chance to continue the conversation.
-Continue to build vocabulary. Introduce a new word and offer its definition, or use it in a context that is easily understood. This may be done in an exaggerated, humorous manner. “I think I will drive the vehicle to the store. I am too tired to walk.”
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-Talk about spatial relationships (first, front, few and the opposites)
-Offer a description or clues, and have your child identify what you are describing: “We use it to sweep the floor” (a broom). “It is cold, sweet, and good for dessert. I like strawberry” (ice cream).
-Work on forming and explaining categories. Identify the thing that does not belong in a group of similar objects: “A shoe does not belong with an apple and an orange because you can’t eat it; it is not round; it is not a fruit.”
-Help your child follow two – three-step directions: “Go to your room, and bring me your book.”
-Encourage your child to give directions. Follow his or her directions as he or she explains how to build a tower of blocks.
-Play games with your child such as “house.” Exchange roles in the family, with your pretending to be the child. Talk about the different rooms and furnishings in the house.
-The television also can serve as a valuable tool. Talk about what the child is watching. Have him or her guess what might happen next. Talk about the characters. Are they happy or sad? Ask your child to tell you what has happened in the story. Act out a scene together, and make up a different ending.
-Take advantage of daily activities. For example, while in the kitchen, encourage your child to name the utensils needed. Discuss the foods on the menu, their color, texture, and taste. Where does the food come from? Which foods do you like? Which do you dislike? Who will clean up? Emphasize the use of prepositions by asking him or her to put the napkin on the table, in your lap, or under the spoon. Identify who the napkin belongs to: “It is my napkin.” “It is Daddy’s.” “It is John’s.”
-Discuss the size (large or small), shape (long, round, square), and weight (heavy or light) of the packages in the home or when shopping.
-Help your child relate to books by selecting stories that mirror family and Islamic values
-Make a special spot for books, magazines and other reading material where your child is able to reach books without help.
-Help your child create his own “This Is Me” or “This Is Our Family” album; then enjoy looking and talking about the photographs.
-Talk to your child about books or TV programs and videos you watch together.
Games
“I spy, with my little eye, something that begins with J.” This helps in the focus on phonics, describe items by the sound they start with: “I spy something that starts with the ‘f’ sound and ‘s’ sound.
If your child is bi-lingual:
-From time to time, children may mix grammar rules, or they might use words from both languages in the same sentence. This is a normal part of bilingual language development.
-When a second language is introduced, some children may not talk much for a while. This “silent period” can last for a few months or for as long as a year. Again, this is normal and will go away.
Visiting a speech therapist with your child, would be most beneficial, for specialist guidance and learning techniques that you as the parent could facilitate at home. Learning to speak more slowly and clearly, emphasizing the letters of concern would help your son greatly, especially if you speak face-to- face accentuating the letters “f” and “s”. Also, getting into the habit of reading short stories and make reading fun!
If your son likes cars, then instead of saying the onomatopoeic word “brrm… brrm” say “vrrmm… vrrmm”. This will help him exercise his lower lip which is required in the pronunciation of the “f” sound.
I hope that can help you.
Salam
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