Showing Affection Between Parents in Front of Kids, Ok?

21 June, 2020
Q Is it okay for kids to see their parents kissing and hugging? I thought it's good for them to see how much their parents love each other but my Mom says it's wrong, and that the kids will try to imitate what they see.

Answer

In this counseling answer:

•Children feel more secure when they see their parents close and sharing loving moments

•The intimacy which goes beyond a casual kiss, hug or hand hold should be avoided


As-salamu alaykum,

Acts of affection between parents (such as a kiss, holding hands, hugging) demonstrate affection, love, and respect between parents. It also teaches children that marriage is one of kindness and closeness.

Children feel more secure when they see their parents close and sharing loving moments. It also teaches them how one should be with their spouse.

Showing Affection in Front of Kids

However, the intimacy which goes beyond a casual kiss, hug or hand hold should be avoided. By this I mean, any kissing that is erotic or leads to sexual desire should be avoided in front of children, as children are quick to pick up on the parents’ emotions and these intimate sexual emotions should be for behind closed doors. I hope this helps!

Salam

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Aisha received her PhD in psychology in 2000 and an MS in public health in 2009. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years for Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. Aisha specializes in trauma, depression, anxiety, substance abuse, marriage/relationships issues, as well as community-cultural dynamics. She is certified in Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and is also a certified Life Coach. Aisha works at a Family Resource Center, and has a part-time practice in which she integrates healing and spirituality using a holistic approach. Aisha plans to open a holistic care counseling center for Muslims and others in the New York area in the future, in sha' Allah. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocate for social & food justice. In her spare time she enjoys her family, martial arts classes, Islamic studies as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.