Q Asalamu Alaikum Rahmatullah. I am going to make this quick inshallah. My wife and I have been having issues for 10 months. Mashallah, I’ve chosen to work through her being disrespectful, disobedient, cheating, lying. I thought we were getting better and I would take her out more to focus on bonding. Unfortunately, two weeks ago, I found out she was cheating on me with a kaffir. She said she loved him after meeting him at work for 2 weeks. He’s a coworker of hers. She would go to work uncovered with makeup to look good for him.

When I found out she was cheating and her best friend allowed who is Muslimah also I feel bad. I asked her to give a khula, but she said no, so I gave her talaq. I have been in another state for a week now due to work purposes. I’m here for two weeks. I’m here trying to do things better, but she is not covering herself. I’ve asked her to leave the job but she doesn’t want to. She’s still talking to that kaffair boy and disrespecting me the fullest. She insists on getting money from me when I get paid.

She has made my life a disaster. Three months of idah is long and I keep telling her if she tries I will try to work things out. She says she loves me but then does haram.

I feel like I’m used all the time. She only wants my money. I feel trapped in this marriage and idah period because I’m so unhappy. I don’t want to go through this. Please, help.