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Fasting Issues (General Fatwa Session)

Sheikh Ahmad Kutty
11 May, 2018

Dear Brothers/Sisters,

 

Thank you very much for joining us in this Live Fatwa session. We would like also to thank our guest, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, for answering the questions directed to him. You will find the answers of your questions below.

Monday, May. 14, 2018 | 21:00 - 23:00 GMT

Session is over.

Subject: As Salam wale kum wa Rahmatula wa Barkatuhu As Salam wale kum wa Rahmatula wa Barkatuhu, I have a question today about the ruling of giving Salam and keeping families tie. 1) about Salam,if a person who happens to be a close relative is constantly trying to insult and harm you, even to the extent that they are practising magic on you.(which was evident in the sessions of Rukaya) do we still have to keep family ties with them.??? Its an ongoing process,like every time after getting Rukaya sessions, prayers etc, i get ok, then again they send something to eat etc and it reoccurs, only after 13-14 years in one of the Rukya session, their name was out.Now it has already disrupted my life from studies to Marriage,I have already cross my marriage age and in my thirties. Now we have served all ties from them, not in revenge etc but to protect our selves from further harm.I know all things are from Allah but its ok to protect oneself. Is in this case serving ties from members are allowed???? 2) Ruling of Salam, is it ok to give Salam to such people???



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

You are not allowed to sever the ties of kinship based on suspicion and guesswork. Severing blood relations is one of the gravest sins in Islam. Allah has warned us against it in numerous places in the Qur’an: ”And be conscious of your duties to Allah and your duties toward the wombs that bore you. Verily, Allah is watching over you.” (An-Nisaa 4:1)

And the Prophet said, “One who severs the ties of kinship cannot hope to enter paradise.” (Muslim(

It seems to me that you are suspecting your relatives of practicing black magic. What evidence do you have?

We cannot make judgments based on mere suspicion. “The Prophet said, “beware of suspicion for suspicion is the worst of lies.” (Muslim(

So, never get carried away by suspicions to sever your relations with your relatives.

The only protection against black magic is by turning to Allah; for details, let me cite here one of my earlier answers:

“Your best protection and immunity against black magic is by empowering yourself through practicing Islam, reading the Qur’an and making constant dhikr and du`aa’.

The only protection against black magic is by turning to Allah; for details, let me cite here one of my earlier answers:

“Your best protection and immunity against black magic is by empowering yourself through practicing Islam, reading the Qur’an and making constant dhikr and du`a’.Allah has promised the faithful that devils cannot exercise permanent control over those servants of Allah who have submitted to Him; Satan can exercise permanent control only over those who acquiesce and surrender themselves to his authority. Almighty Allah says: “Most certainly, My servants–you cannot exercise control over them except those who are deviant who follow you.”(Al-Hijr: 42) “Most certainly he (Satan) has no power over those who truly cherish faith and are trusting upon their Lord; rather his power is limited only to those who take him as a protector (besides God) and thus associate partners with Him.”(An-Nahl: 99-100)
The first and foremost requirement is to believe firmly that no one, however great his powers may be, can benefit or harm you except if Allah wills it. The Qur’an reminds us repeatedly that a true believer must believe firmly that Allah alone is the One Who can give us benefit or harm in an absolute sense; everything that befalls us from humans or other creatures is only secondary and is achieved only through the power derived from Allah; so the best remedy and cure is to continuously seek protection and refuge in Allah. Satan and all of his tricks and weapons could be defeated and rendered utterly ineffective if Allah wills.
I give below a number of selections of verses of the Qur’an and du`a’ which you can recite on a regular basis:
1) Al-Fatihah
2) Last three chapters of the Qur’an (i.e., Surahs 112, 113, 114)
3) Ayat al-Kursi (i.e., Al-Baqarah: 255)
Besides the above, repeat the following du`a’ son a regular basis both in the morning and evening three times or more:
1) Bismillahi alladhi la yadurru ma`a ismihi shay’un fi al-ardi wa la fi as-sama’i wa huwa as-sami`u al-`alim

(In the name of Allah; with His name, nothing whatsoever on earth or heaven can inflict any harm; He is All-Hearing and All-Knowing).

 

2) Hasbiya Allahu la ilaha illa huwa `alayhi tawakkaltu wahuwa rabbu al-`arshi al-`azhim

(Allah suffices me; there is no god but He; in Him I place my sole trust; He is the Lord of the mighty Throne).

 

3) Allaahumma ini a`duhu bika min hamazati ash-shayatin wa a`udhu bika rabbi an yahdurun
(O Allah, I seek refuge in You from the whisperings of Satan; my Lord, I seek refuge in You from their presence around me).

 

4) A`udhu bi `izzati Allahi wa qudratihi mimma ajidu wa uhadhiru
(I seek refuge in Allah’s glory and power from the affliction and pain I experience and suffer from).

 

It is important to remember that du`a’ and dhikr will only benefit when it comes from a heart that firmly believes in Allah, and thus cherishes firm conviction in Allah’s power and sovereignty.”

Therefore, you are not allowed to blame others for the challenges you face in life.

As for the final question, whether you should greet them with salam, the answer is definitely yes.

The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “It is not allowed for a Muslim to boycott his brother for more than three days….they meet and avoid each other; and the best of them is the one who makes up by initiating the greeting of salam.” (Al-Bukhari)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Can I have intimate relationship with my wife except intercourse before bringing her to my home after Nikkah without paying haq mehr moajal(not delayed one)



In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

You need not have any inhibitions about intimacy with your wife after Nikah. Nikah renders each one of you lawful for the other. If she has agreed to accept a deferred mahr payment

However, if you postpone sexual intercourse until you bring her home or until you pay the mahr promised that is up to both of you.

 

There is no hard and fast rule in such matters in Islam.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Why is suicide haram? I know it's because a person's body belongs to Allah but why is committing suicide so forbidden when the person is dead inside already? People say it's selfish to kill yourself because then the loved ones suffer, but isn't it selfish to trap a person in a place where they are so unhappy? Why is ending your pain selfish? Why is suicide haram when it's just an empty shell faking smiles and laughter everyday just so no one knows how much it hurts inside?



In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Suicide is haram because Allah has prohibited it: “Do not kill yourselves for God is Merciful to you.” (An-Nisaa 4:29)

 

Allah is the one who bestowed life on us, and so He alone has the right to take it away. We don’t own ourselves. Moreover, as long as we are alive we have a chance to repent and save ourselves; once we die, there is no hope left.

 

 

The Prophet, peace be upon him, warns us against taking our own lives no matter how hard the trials we face in life. He said, “Whoever stabs himself to death with a weapon he will continue to stab himself with the same forever in the hellfire on the Day of Resurrection.” (At-Tirmidhi and others)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

This happened during an internship period. Us interns used to sit together during lunch and the company was such that they provided food for lunch. There was a girl who was with us who was wearing a nice looking coat. Out of admiration, i commented on its appearance. She went to get her food and then came back. Her coat was torn. She was very vocal about it to me saying something along the lines of "see you commented and now it tore..." i felt very bad because I didn't mean for that to happen. I don't think I envied her for it either. Could I cause evil eye like that unintentionally even? And supposing that I did, how do I, as the deliverer, prevent it from happening ever again? I don't want to cause harm to people or their property etc.



If you did not mean to cause harm, you need not worry about the incident. You should apologize.

 

In future, you need to watch your words. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “Most of the people find themselves languishing in hell primarily because of their misuse of their tongues.” (At-Tirmidhi). Therefore, he advised us, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day should speak the truth or remain silent.” (Muslim)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Assalamu alaikum shaikh, are helping mother in household works & taking care of parents duty of both son & daughter in equal amount or not?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

Allah commands us in the Qur’an to honor our parents. It is the second most important commandment in Islam enjoined upon every prophet from Adam to Muhammad. It comes next to our duty to worship Allah.

 

Therefore, both sons and daughters must honor their parents by serving them as best as they when the parents are not able to take care of themselves.

 

There is no distinction made between sons and daughters in this matter.

 

However, it is customary in societies for sons to bear the financial responsibilities while daughters take care of providing care.

 

That is because of the division of labor. There is nothing in following this custom if the sons are working and daughters are not.

 

In such a case, sons ought to take care of providing financial support and daughters provide the nurturing care.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

assalamu alaikum, As we are aware that the month of holy ramadan is near,I have few things to clarify. I am 25 years old and I am going to get married insha Allah in next couple of months. The problem is I am under weight and very lean. my height is 5.8 and my weight is 52. Me and my parents are worried if I fast in Ramadan, I may further lose my weight. everybody suggesting me to skip fasting which I don't like or I don't prefer. Could you please help me how can I maintain my weight or increase in the month of Ramadan without skipping my fasting? Jazakallah



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

 

If your physician says that you are dangerously underweight and he or she recommends that you skip the fast, then you are allowed to skip it. However, you should make up for the fasts missed as soon your health improves.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Assalamu Alaikum Wa rahmatullahi Wabarakahtuhu. My question is, i started working as a nurse this april at hospital where we take care of aged both males and females and sometimes young males and females who have terminal ilnesses. Our job consist of feeding, bathing and other things. I will like to know as i will be working in this ramadan, if it is permisible for me as female muslim to be working in such enviroment where deal with males ( as in bathing them). We deal with cleaning and changing their diapers also.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

Your work as a nurse involving feeding, bathing and changing diapers of patients does not affect the validity of fasts.

 

You are working to save lives; it is a noble work; therefore, the standard rules do not apply here. Rules of jurisprudence state: Exigencies make the unlawful lawful. And where there is a hardship, the rigors of the laws are relaxed.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum shaikh will obligatory & voluntary fasting of female medical students & male medical students be affected negatively? Please note that , medical science contain sensitive topics about which medical students have to study, give oral & practical examination to teachers of both opposite & same gender,both male & female students learn from teachers & other students of opposite/same gender by uncovering & touching both male & female patient's body parts in front other people,patients of both gender present there(although in case of awrah/private parts some privacy is maintained) & there is no gender segregation in medical schools, educational institutions ,job fields & other organizations in our country.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

If this is an essential part of the training which you cannot skip, then you need not worry about it.

 

It will not invalidate your fast as long as you keep your mind pure and chaste. You may do so by focusing as much as possible during the procedure on dhikr and praying to Allah to guard your heart and soul.

According to the rules of jurisprudence, in case of hardship, the rigors of law are relaxed.

 

Medical training is an essential area which Muslims can only neglect at their peril.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Currently i am having my final exams which will end by the mid of Ramadan. The problem is that my parents are forcing me to leave fasting during these days. I am confused and i donot know what to do as i have seen that fasting can only be avoided in serious matters.



You don’t need to obey your parents in such matters. Fasting the month of Ramadan is a duty enjoined by Allah on you – as long as you are not sick or traveling or experiencing menses or post-natal bleeding.

 

The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “There is no obedience due to anyone – in disobedience to the Creator.” (Al-Bukhari)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

My final exams are coming in Ramadan, and I belong to the place where the temperature hardly rises to 32° but for study purposes I went to some different place where temperature goes upto 39°, so I won't be able to fast!! What should I do!! My second question : Whenever it comes Ramadan I start hesitating about fast, by saying that I will hungry, there will come bad smell from my mouth and all this, how can I avoid it?



If you fear to suffer dehydration and find yourself unable to study because of extreme heat during the day you may skip the fast as long as you make up for it later.

 

However, you are not merely allowed to skip fasts just because you think you feel hungry. The very purpose of the institution of fasting is to train us to endure hunger and thirst. It serves to remind us of what the poor go through every day of their lives; it also conditions us to learn self-restraint. So no one is allowed to skip the fasts for flimsy reasons of fear of hunger.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

I want to ask about looking. Can i look at intimate parts of women as i'm a woman.? If i am a doctor and i have to study books showing intimate Awrah and parts. Please guide me.



In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

Islam prohibits indecent exposure. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “Keep your private parts covered except in front of your spouse.”

However, there is an exception to be made to the above rule because of necessary medical treatment.

Therefore, for treatment or diagnosis, a doctor can see the intimate parts of the patient. In such cases, it a male physician should see a male patient, and a female physician should see a female unless warranted by genuine reasons.

Almighty Allah knows best.

Salam alakum straight to point im scared to put the word islam on google because of how much lies and false claims there are about Islam I came across a Christian missionary and they where saying that Islamic eschatology was copied from Christian works New Testament can you explain this please jazakallah



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

You should never look to google to learn about Islam. You can only learn it from reliable sources.

 

Google has been used by enemies of Islam and warmongers to target Islam and Muslims. It is where Islamophobia thrives. So, to expect them to speak the truth about Islam is like getting water from fire.

 

I would urge you to look to the right sources for the correct information on Islam; here is a list of such sites:

Aboutislam.net; islamicity.com; thedeenshow.com; discoverislam.com, etc.

 

 

The Christian theologian forgets the teachings of his religion that all prophets before Jesus preached the same essential truths.

 

The Prophet Muhammad in so far as he made such statements his source is the revelation given to him even as Jesus got his knowledge through revelation from God like prophets such as Abraham, Moses, etc.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

assalam WA aliekum..i wanted to ask the ruiling about a male teacher teaching a female student or vise versa...what are those certain parameters or conditions..becuz I heard about bibi Ayesha (may peacebe with her) use to taught and give fatwas to the sahaba's..



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

Men are allowed to teach women; likewise, women are also allowed to teach men.

 

While doing so, they should observe the Islamic guidelines. Such guidelines include: men and women appearing wearing inappropriate attire breaking the rules of Islamic modesty; these rules apply to both males and females; the purpose and content of teaching are ethical and free of all vices; finally, there is no possibility of isolation between a man and woman.

 

As long as such guidelines are in place, men and women can meet, learn and engage in learning and discussions.

 

That is the precedent set by the Prophet (peace be upon him). We learn from the well-attested traditions that men and women used to appear and meet in public places on all important occasions, including the five daily prayers, the weekly gathering of Jumu’ah, Eid prayers, and even in the expeditions and battlefields.

 

Aishah, Umm Salamah, and others used to teach men and women while observing the above rules, and this tradition continued until recent times as we have no shortage of women scholars and jurists instructing both men and women.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum Shaikh, there is a more tendency within women to show shyness & modesty, no doubt it is good quality. But society/culture behaves as if shyness & modesty is not for men & it is only for women ,which I find unfair. Does Islam consider that shyness & modesty is applicable to both men & women in equal amount? Does Islam make modesty & shyness so overbearing in both men & women in equal amount ?



In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

 All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Modesty is one of the essential manners for all Muslims to observe, whether males or females. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “Modesty is one of the branches of faith.” (Al-Bukhari).  So, it is wrong to say that in Islam modesty is enjoined exclusively on women.

 

We should acquire the trait of modesty in such a way that we should be ashamed of transgressing the limits of Allah.

The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “If you do not feel shy (before Allah) do whatever you wish.” (At-Tabarani

 

In other words, a person who has no sense of modesty is a loser and far removed from the grace of Allah.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum shaikh ,as far I know , Islam gives importance on women's taking her decision regarding her marriage. Though the involvement of her guardian is mandatory, the final decision regarding marriage upto women. She can take decision when she will marry .My question is, if she decides ,she will marry after 35,after 40 or whatever age she wants, is it permitted? If she wants to marry in later age cause she want to complete highest degrees of her educational subjects or she wants to reach to highest position/stable position of her career before taking huge responsibility of wife & mother in order to avoid chaos & difficulty, or organize her life or other reasons or just taking time/being prepared before accepting drastic change that comes with married life , is it permitted? Or is it sin though, marrying before time fixed by her is something she doesn't want for herself? I am not interested what society /culture dictates about that, cause society/culture unfairly treats women,discriminates women ,restricts her life,belittles her, gives her pressure which I find irritating. I would be grateful, if you would answer it without taking her wishes negatively cause , even in modern age women are unfairly judged, her life is restricted & I don't see anything wrong in women's love for study,job,hobby,constructive works cause those make her confident & broadens her mind & gives her security ,financial independence, positive attitude.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

Although as a woman you are allowed to postpone marriage temporarily to pursue your professional goals or dreams, you should not do so indefinitely, especially if you have the needs for intimacy and union. By putting it off forever, you may end up missing the boat altogether.

 

I know this from my experience of more than four decades as an Imam. I know many women who waited and waited for various reasons, including the one you mentioned above, and then ended up living spinsters.

 

For further details on the precise legal status of marriage in Islam, please refer to the answer posted below to a similar question.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum shaikh,I want to know Islamic rulings about women who wishes to remain unmarried. If women wishes to remain unmarried because of many personal reasons,. Though she has physical desire but it is not so much for which she will think about fornication. Overall she doesn't fall into fornication & even doesn't want it cause it is unlawful.Though she finds intimacy attractive in imagination,she usually does not desire it in real life. Cause she thinks ,she will be sad during intimacy in real life due to some personal insecurities.their are rights of husband like obedience,intimacy & other rights.The most important point that she has doubt whether she will be able to fulfill those rights for all times until death or not.In this case , can she remain unmarried( as long as she does not fall into fornication) , as there's a risk that she can't fulfill spousal duties & though she has physical desire in certain amount, due to personal insecurities she doesn't find intimacy in real life interesting?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

If a person chooses to remain unmarried for the reasons such as the ones you have referred to above, it is not sinful.

 

Marriage is not obligatory or strongly recommended for everyone; instead, it varies from person to person according to his or her condition or situation. Marriage would be forbidden if a person cannot fulfill the spousal obligations at all or fears harming him or her. It is obligatory on those who are unable to guard themselves against fornication while having the means to get married.

 

For further details, let me cite here one of my earlier answers:

 

“Although marriage is generally considered a highly recommended act, yet from the point of view of fiqh (Islamic jurisprudence)—because of diverse circumstances—it can readily fall into one of the four categories listed below: Fard (obligatory) or mustahabb (recommended) or haram (forbidden) or simply halal (permitted).

 

1- Marriage is considered fard(obligatory) if a person is so tormented by sexual desire that he/she fears falling into the sin of fornication. Since staying away from fornication is obligatory, and since marriage is the only avenue for legitimate sexual satisfaction, it becomes obligatory on such a person to get married. This is based on the principle in jurisprudence that says: “If an obligatory thing cannot be fulfilled except by fulfilling another, then fulfilling the latter becomes equally obligatory.”

 

2- If, however, he or she is not so tormented by sexual desire, and, hence, there is no fear of falling into sin, then it is highly recommended to get married if one has the means to do so. By doing so, one is fulfilling one of the great Sunnahs of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), our perfect role model.

 

3- If a person knows for certain that he or she cannot fulfill the duties required in marriage, and there is no fear of his/her falling into sin, then it becomes haramfor such a person to get married. Islam forbids us from doing injustice to another person; this would definitely be the case if one were to neglect his/her spousal duties.

 

4- If a person has no means to marry and is, therefore, incapable of fulfilling his spousal duties, but has strong desire, it is permitted for him to get married—provided he tries earnestly to seek an honest source of living. Allah has promised to help such a person. We must also add here a further note that the Muslim community has a duty to assist such people until such time that they become self-reliant.

 

If, however, no such measures are available, and a person finds himself unable to fulfill his spousal duties, he is advised to curb his desires through the discipline of fasting and other acts of sublimation.”

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum, I want to ask about Allah not accepting repentance of one who continue to sin. Does it mean persisting in minor sins will prevent repentance being accepted? And what about major sins done out of ignorance? Jazak Allahu khayr



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

Allah says, “If you shun the major sins  that you are enjoined to shun, We shall efface your [minor] bad deeds, and shall cause you to enter an abode of glory.” (An-Nisaa’ 4 31)

 

So, once we shun the major sins, Allah will forgive our minor sins. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “A person’s performance of five daily prayers, attendance of Jumu’ah prayers every week, and observing the fasts of Ramadan every year will erase the bad deeds and compensates for them – as long he avoid the major sins.”

 

As for the major sins, we ought to turn to Allah in sincere repentance. Since repentance entails the following steps; namely, remorse, refraining, and resolving never to do them.

 

Remorse means feeling deep sorrow for sinning; refraining implies that one must stay away from the sin including all of its leads and associations and finally resolving firmly never to sin again.

 

Once we fulfill these conditions, we can hope for the mercy of Allah.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Assalamualaikum!! I am studying in Ukraine. Here it's a very cold climate like -25to-30 degrees. I should eat chicken to stay healthy here. Here everywhere there is non veg like in every edible thing. But it's very difficult to find halal meet. The Christians cut here meat like chicken and sheep but not in Islamic procedure. Can i eat chicken which is not cut in Islamic procedure in emergency case ?? I cannot find halal chicken here easily . My friends told to say Bismillah and eat Allah will forgive pls answer this question..



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

 If the meat they serve in the restaurants is coming from those who call themselves Christians or Jews, you may eat it saying bismillah even if it is not slaughtered according to the strict rules of Islam. Allah says, “Today I have permitted for you all good things, and the food of the people of the book is lawful for you..”

 

According to Ibn Abbas, here the food refers to the meat they slaughter.

 

The Prophet, peace be  upon him, was asked about meat coming to them from suburbs and they had no idea whether they mentioned the name of Allah while slaughtering, he replied, “you mention the name of Allah while eating it.”

 

Therefore, the majority of scholars hold the view that we are allowed to eat the meat of the People of the Book (as long as it does not belong to the forbidden category such as pork and it’s by-products).

 

Having said this, I should also caution to avoid it if you have a clear choice of going for meat that is slaughtered by Muslims.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Salam alaykoum, My wife and I had a couple of rough months and two days ago she asked me for a khula by saying: "I want to do a khula" I asked her if she was sure two times and asked her why, she said "I am tired of your personality and of living with you" I said "OK, I give a khula without compensation" then she just left, took her belongings and went to her parents. Previously, I wanted to divorce her and use the three months of the iddah to maybe change my mind but she said that she can't bear living with me 3 extras months knowing that I wanted to divorce her so strongly, she said emotionally she would be tired that's why she wanted to do a khula instead. But in reality I didn't mistreat her in a bad way or miss on my duties to her and she's loves me a great deal. When she asked for the khula we were both sick and tired and we were back from a long travel, so we were not in most healthy mindset. My question is considering all of of this and the fact that the condition of verbal offer and acceptance was really met and nothing was proposed from her part is our khula valid or are we still married?JazakAllah khair



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

If you did have the intention to divorce her in this way when you uttered those words in response to her request, then you are divorced. If the waiting period is over, then you may remarry her through a new nikah.

 

 

Having said this, let me advise you to learn to master your anger. If you plan to live together, you should seek marriage counseling. Unless you learn and practice the tips to control your anger, there is no guarantee that you will not repeat the same mistakes.

You need to remember that divorce is the most hated of all permissible things in the sight of Allah. So, you cannot use the words of divorce jestingly. If you do so, you are playing with the Laws of Allah which is a grave sin.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamualaikum Sister, I am in a dilema whether i committed a sin or not, please keep this private and reply to me only. Here is my story. I was married to a very monsterous family they troubled and tortured me to core and finally when i was pregnant my sister in law that is my husband's sister forced him to give talaq to me. He called off talaq to me and left me to my parents house and took off all my jewels and my things and never returned back. Since i was pregnant i underwent severe depression. At the time of my wedding my sister in law was already divorced and i had never seen her husband and i was aware that she was planning cruel things like court case against her husband. So some how through some sources i got her husband's contact details and through my father informed him that he is in trouble. As i was also divorced and helping her husband we got to know each other and we both had faced lots of issues from that worst family we planned to get married and after my delivery after so.many months.i got married to him ( my sister in law's husband) Did i commit sin here. I am damn tensed if i committed sin then how should i go about , i cannot talk to that sister in law as she is too cruel but as a human did i commit sin if so how should i go anout asking forgiveness to allah. Please help me know this. I am deliberatly waiting for your answers. Thanks



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

If you had been divorced and your waiting period had expired before you met this man and married him, then you did not sin. And you need not feel guilty.

 

As far as I could infer from your question, you never had harbored a secret intention to marry the man; if that is true, then you need not feel any shame or harbor guilt feeling.

 

Allah is Merciful and so turn to Him seeking His forgiveness. Turn to Allah in the manner He has instructed us:

 

“Our Lord, Take us not to task if we forget or unintentionally do wrong! “Our Lord, place not upon us a burden such as You placed upon those who came before us. Our Lord, do not lay on us burdens such as we have no strength to bear! “And blot out sins, and grant us forgiveness, and shower us with Your mercy! You are our Lord and Protector; so, help us against those who reject the truth!” (Al-Baqarah 2:286)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

As' salamu Alykum, We live in a house for the past 24 years. My wife got sick 2 years ago and she has gone through every treatment possible, but her condition got worse. Also, we have been trying to get our daughter married for the past 16 years, but no success. My daughter thinks that these unresolved issues are due to the house we live in and she wants us to move. Is there any basis, in Islam, for her reason and if there is any, what is the remedy.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

If you don’t like your house, you should move out if you can. Otherwise, you should continue while remaining steadfast in the practice of Islam. One of the fundamental beliefs in Islam is that with the name of Allah nothing on earth or heaven can do any harm. So as long as we believe in Him and place our trust in Him, and seek His protection, nothing can hurt us.

 

1- Here are three tips I would suggest for achieving peace of mind and seeking the help of Allah in facing the challenges in life:

 

Be diligent in establishing regular prayer; start your days by praying Fajr and spend fifteen minutes in dhikr and du’a and reading from the Qur’an.

 

Your morning du’as should include the following:

 

Read fathihah, aayatul al-kursi and the last three surahs of the Quran and then the following:

 

Allaahumma innee asbahthu minka fee ni’amatin wa aafiyatin wa sitr fa atimma alayaa ni’amathaka wa aafiyathaka wa sitraka alayya fi al-ddunya wa al-aakhirah

 

Radeethu billaahi rabban wabi al-islaami deenana wabi Muhammadin nabiyyan wa rasoolan

Bismillaahi alladhee laa yadhurru ma’a ismihi shayun fi al-ardhi walaa fia al-ssamaa’I wa huwa al-ssameeu’ al-aleem

 

Hasbiya Allah laa ilaaha illaahuwa alayhi tawakkalthu wahuwa rabbu al-arshi al-azheem

 

2- Make lots of istighfar and ask Allah for protection and bring ease and comfort. The prophet, peace be upon him, said, “whoever makes istighfar consistently Allah will save him from all troubles and difficulties and provides for his relief and escape from all troubles.”

 

3- Never lose hope in Allah’s help. Despair is antithetical to faith.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum, I heard that those who are sociable are better than those who are not sociable. Also silence is wisdom. Please explain



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

It all depends. Humans are social animals. Our mandate on earth is to serve as vicegerents or shepherds of the planet earth. We must take care of the planet and its inhabitants. This onerous duty requires us to cooperate and work as a team with others.

 

It also demands from us to cooperate with others to command good and forbid evil and to cooperate with others for the common good and virtue.

While working for this noble goal, we must face opposition and even persecution. If we do persevere in the face of trials and tribulations, we merit more significant and more excellent rewards. It was the way of the messengers of Allah. They continued patiently in the face of trails, and Allah tells the Prophet Muhammad to persevere in the face of trials even as the mighty messengers persevered.

 

Therefore, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A believer who mixes and mingles with people and bears their hurt is superior to a believer who does not mingle or mix and hence does not experience the hurts of people.” (At-Tabarani)

 

Therefore, this is the ideal way. However, an exception is made in case of those who are weak. For instance, if someone who cannot save his faith in a corrupt society. If he fears that he cannot make any difference and is worried about being swept away by the tide he ought to isolate himself to guard his faith.

 

The prophet, peace be upon him, has prophesied that towards the end of times, we may face such a situation: when faced with situations like that, we are ordered to leave the corrupt society and live in seclusion until death comes.

 

I pray to Allah to help us remain steadfast in our faith until the end.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Assalamu alaikum, We must expect the best reward from Allah. At the same time we must not think high of ourselves. Please explain



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

There is no contradiction between the two when understood correctly.

 

Islam teaches us to do works seeking the pleasure of Allah. There is nothing higher than the pleasure of Allah. It encompasses everything.

 

Now when we say that we cannot think highly of ourselves, it is intended to save us from self-righteousness. No matter how great our deeds we do we must never be complacent; we ought to turn to Allah to accept them. See how the Prophets Ibrahim and his son Ismael supplicated to the Lord after finishing building the Ka`bah by order of Allah: “Our Lord! Accept our work, for verily You are the All-Hearing and All-Knowing. And turn towards us in repentance for verily You are the accepter of repentance and the most Merciful.”

 

In conclusion, we ought to seek the pleasure of Allah while doing good deeds; having done so, we must never think that we are perfect. We should instead hope and pray that Allah accepts our good deeds. We must know that we can never be perfect in doing our duties towards Allah whose blessings and favors are beyond our ability to thank Him.

 

That is the lesson the Prophet taught us. When his wife Aishah asked him, “why to torture yourself so much, when Allah has forgiven you all of your past and future sins?, he replied, “If He  has done so, shall I not be a grateful servant?” (Muslim)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

I would like to know if I am eligible to marry on Islamic view because I am still studying and since I am hearing impaired I can't really do business as all of them require communication which I clearly lack and so I am to try out specific govt jobs reserved for my handicap category. My family background is full Islamic and my father is retired teacher and provide for our family with his pension so we are lower middle class but since one require to provide for his family (i.e my wife-to-be)which as of now I can't but hope so Allah makes me self sufficient in near future. I have intense urge to marry and just to avoid major sins like gaze and internal sexual urge which I get frequently. If I have to wait till having a good house and finance then I don't know how long I have to wait.I am 25 now and owing to my Physical problem it's even harder to get job and more importantly a suitable spouse.I feel very depressed at times. I am also making dua to Allah to ease my situation but I also have to take practical approach which Allah has bestowed upon each of us. I informed my dad and he wants to get me married but he doesn't feel confident to approach any brides house, he is old and my mom is very weak but I don't have brother so I would like to help her with chores but I feel like I am not worth of getting married.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

 You should never despair of the mercy of Allah. Never mind your physical challenges, you have value in the sight of Allah. The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “Let no one belittle or consider himself as worthless.”(Reported by Ibn Majah)

 

So, you should know that the doors of Allah’s mercy are open for you. However, you need to knock at His door unceasingly. Allah says, “Whoever is mindful of Allah, Allah will provide for his relief and succor (i.e., a way of out of difficulties).”

 

And the Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “Whoever makes istighfar consistently, Allah will grant him relief and provide for him in ways he would never be able to estimate.” (Reported by Abu Dawud and others)

 

So, make istighfar and beg Allah to open doors for you. The Prophet, peace be upon him, taught us to pray unceasingly and never to lose hope.

Once you do that, hoping and trusting in Allah, He will come to your help in ways you would never even imagine.

 

If you find yourself unable to restrain your sexual urge, you should think of marriage. If you think you will not be able to support your wife, then work to excel in your studies and try to get the government job you are seeking and pray to Allah to facilitate it.

 

In the meantime, practice self-restraint and intermittent fasting. I pray to Allah to help you overcome your challenges and grant you success in realizing your goals in life.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Umme Salamah (radi Allahu anha) narrates that she said to Prophet Muhammad (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam): "O Rasul Allah, are the women of this world superior or the hoors (of Paradise)?" He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) replied, "The women of this world will have superiority over the hoors just as the outer lining of a garment has superiority over the inner lining." Umme Salamah (radi Allahu anha) then asked, "O Rasul Allah, what is the reason for this?" He answered, "Because they performed salah, fasted, and worshipped [Allah]. Allah will put light on their faces and silk on their bodies. [The human women] will be fair in complexion and will wear green clothing and yellow jewelry. Their incense-burners will be made of pearls and their combs will be of gold. They will say, 'We are the women who will stay forever and we will never die. We are the women who will always remain in comfort and we will never undergo difficulty. We are the women who will stay and we will never leave. Listen, we are happy women and we will never become sad. Glad tidings to those men for whom we are and who are for us.'" [Tabrani] Is this authentic? Will women get male hoors (if they want), by not "only" having beauty and jealousy taken away?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

The hadith cited above is not authentic. It is a strange and isolated narration from Sulayman b. Abi Karimah; most of his narrations are strange (dubious) and therefore untrustworthy).

 

He has been judged as weak and unreliable narrator by eminent scholars of hadith such as Imam Ahmad, Yahya b. Ma`in. Imam Daraqutni states, we ought to reject his reports.  Ibn Hajar cites Imam Bukhari’s judgment on the above hadith: “It is not authentic.”

It is important to point out: Matters of ghayb belong to the realm of ‘Aqidah. Matters of aqidah must be based on textual evidence that is well attested; therefore, we can rely on such dubious or weak traditions to make judgments on such matters.

 

We have sufficiency in well-attested traditions; we do not speculate on such matters; instead, we ought to leave the full knowledge of the unseen realities to the All-Knowing: so, we say Allahu a’lam (Allah knows best).

 

Asalam Alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatul, My question is, If Christianity is a false religion, Why is it mentioned in the Quran ?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

The Qur’an does not condemn Christianity or Judaism or any other religion for that matter. The Qur’an reiterates the fact that it is the last revelation which confirms and preserves the truths revealed to all prophets in all of the previous scriptures, including Torah and Gospel.

 

While doing so, it points out some of the alterations and misinterpretations of those who claim to follow them. If you read the Bible, you will see the various prophets criticizing the Jews for their rebellion and transgressions; likewise, Jesus, peace be upon him, criticized and rebelled against the Jewish scholars and leaders for their violations, and hypocrisy.

 

We ought to treat the Qura’nic criticism in the same spirit. It challenges the followers of the Torah and Gospel to practice the pristine teachings of the scriptures and not the human-made interpretations and interpolations.

 

“And if they would but truly observe the Torah and the Gospel and all [the revelation] that has been bestowed from on high upon them by their Sustainer, they would indeed partake of all the blessings of heaven and earth.* Some of them do pursue a right course, but as for most of them -vile indeed is what they do! “ (Al-Ma’idah 5:66)

 

The explanatory note to the above verse by Muhammad Asad clarifies the point beautifully:

 

“*The expression “partake of all the blessings of heaven and earth” (lit., “eat from above them and from beneath their feet”) is an allusion to the blessing which accompanies the realization of a spiritual truth, as well as to the social happiness which is bound to follow an observance of the moral principles laid down in the genuine teachings of the Bible. It should be borne in mind that the phrase “if they would but truly observe (law annahum aqamu) the Torah and the Gospel”, etc., implies an observance of those scriptures in their genuine spirit, free of the arbitrary distortions due to that “wishful thinking” of which the Qur’an so often accuses the Jews and the Christians such as the Jewish concept of “the chosen people”, or the Christian doctrines relating to the alleged divinity of Jesus and the “vicarious redemption” of his followers.(Quran Ref: 5:66 ).”

 

In this context, let me also point out that the late Muhammad Asad was a convert to Islam from Judaism. He came from a rabbinical family of Austrian Jews and had acquired a thorough training in the Jewish tradition and scriptures before his conversion to Islam. He became convinced that the Qur’an was a corrective to the previous scriptures.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Asalamoalikum. My question is can in islam mother in law can force daughter in law to leave her job? N can she put restrictions on son's wife about going out, using daily use things at home, or sharing room wth husband? What daughter in law should do if mother in law hates alot n tries best to humiliate her on daily bases and brain washes son to humiliate abuse wife n her siblibgs and parents are not allowed to visit neithr husband or inlaws visit her parents ever. Both families total strangers before marriage which was through a common friend. Mother in law put false blames, keeps planning n plotting to make son husband n others be little daughter in law.gives verbal abuses to her n her family n hit physically few times.n made son beat wife too by creating situations. no God fear at all. Son wife is treated only as a maid by all young n elders at inlaws. N threats of divirce over minor mistakes. What such woman should do? Have no children n husbnd n inlaws dont want children too. Only eldest son wife live wth inlaws other live separate n so have good relation wth inlaws. No doubt daughter in law does have shortcomings. .like poor health, continuous depression n feeling n fear of daily Humilation hate fights cause nervouness n no confidence n daily mental n emotional torture.finding faults in cooking as she belong to diffrent place n family .she doesnt cook that bad. And she didnt bring dowery as husband didnt allow at time of nikah but later on shes taunted humiliated for not bringing dowery. Jazakallah.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

No one is allowed to abuse another person whether parents, in-laws or spouses.

 

So, if what you allege your matter-in-law is right, she is oppressive. She ought to know that Allah is watching and she will have to account for her misdeeds.

 

There is nothing more grievous than oppression and persecution of another human being. Allah warns us against it in the Qur’an, and He says, “Those who oppress others will find no one to save them (from the chastisement of Allah on the Day of Judgment).” (Al-Baqarah 2:270)

 

You should talk to your husband to make his mother understand the harm she is causing herself through such behavior. For she is hurting herself more, for there is nothing worse than risking her salvation in the next world, and she is doing that if she persists in such behavior.

I advise you to be patient and turn to Allah begging for His mercy and support; pray to Allah to open her heart to see the harm she is causing herself.

 

I pray to Allah to help you overcome your challenges and give you peace of mind.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.