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Muslim Families Fatwas (Live Session)

Dr. Muhammad Said
28 February, 2018

Dear Brothers/Sisters,

 

Thank you very much for joining us in this Live Fatwa session. We would like also to thank our guest, Dr. Mohammad S. Alrahawan, for answering the questions directed to him. You will find the answers of your questions below.

Saturday, Mar. 03, 2018 | 13:00 - 15:00 GMT

Session is over.

Assalamu alaikum shaikh, I am women & confused about a matter. In Islam, variety of topics of life are discussed, as Islam is a way of life. Fatwas & other writings about them exists in different lslamic websites. Like other topics human sexuality is also discussed decently in Islamic websites as it is a part of life. Sex related topics/ attraction between man & women are discussed in clarifying rulings & misconception about marriage,divorce,iddah, haram relationship,intimacy, reward in jannah, hijab, zina, women's becoming trial for men, sexual perversion/ psychosexual disorder,sexual crime,castration, breast feeding & all other alike topics. And Islamic websites deals with these topics decently. And scholars,psychologists & counselors of this website answer questions related with these topics. My question is, as an unmarried women can I read these fatwas & writings about those in Islamic websites & send my questions about these to know rulings/clear my confusion about these for my whole life? I am 25 year old & sexuality is not a secret for people of my age.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

There is no problem to read, study and ask questions about those issues in case you feel in need. It has been reported that women used to come to the Prophet to ask him about certain issues like those you mentioned. On the authority of ῾A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) who said: Fatimah bint Hubaysh asked the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) “Messenger of Allah, I never become clean. Should I abandon the prayer?” The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “No, but you should abandon prayer for the number of days equal to your usual menstrual cycle, and after that, you should wash away the blood and pray.”

 

Similarly, On the authority of Umm Salamah, the wife of the Prophet (may Allah be pleased with her) who said: Umm Sulaym, the wife of Abu Talha, came to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) and said, “Messenger of Allah, Allah is not ashamed of the truth. Does a woman have to perform a ghusl when she has a sexual dream?” The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “Yes, if she sees any discharge.”

 

But if a woman thinks that such readings will probably lead to sexual arousal or to overindulgence in things which may turn her away from doing her religious duties, she must stop reading or following up those materials.

 

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

assalam,currently it's been 3 days straight i ejaculate a tiny liquid transparent every prayer,i have to pray fast and i don't like praying fast it steals the pleasure for praying I've lost it cause of the incontinence,i wanted to ask i am a mahzor will Allah punish me and it's beyond my control, Assalam



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

You do not have to pray fast. Most probably this is a madhy  (urethral discharge). Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) Narrated: I used to get the emotional urethral discharge frequently so I requested Al-Miqdad to ask the Prophet (peace be upon him) about it. Al-Miqdad asked him and he replied, “One has to perform ablution (after it).” (Al-Bukhari)

 

You should only wash the area sullied with mathy and make wudu’. In case this turns to be uncontrollable and frequented to the extent that you think it is a disease, you may make ablution immediately before the time of prayer and cover your private part with some cotton and pray by taking all your time.

 

In this case, you are supposed to just pray the obligatory prayer and additional supererogatory prayers attached to it. When the time for next prayer comes, you repeat the same process again.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Generally in India every school start with prayer (of Sarasvati god of eduction according to there point of vision ) and Muslim student also part of this activities so I want to know that it is haram or not ? They sing whatever is against of our shariat And soon I will knock door of Supreme Court against this !



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

Such an act is absolutely prohibited. Muslims must not engage in any type of prayer which includes polytheistic or idolatrous practices. This is one of the peculates of a Muslim which must not be violated. Allah prohibited Muslims even to eat the meat of animals slaughtered on altars or dedicated for anyone other than Allah.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Salaam can I have my husband 's name after marriage. He is not forcing me and he wants to know if it's allowed or not in Islam I want to have his name for some personal reasons. Not to offend anyone or anything We want to know if it's allowed? And If we did it We want to make sure we are not doing something Haram Thank you



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

It is prohibited in Islam to be called by the name of anyone other than one’s father. Allah says in the Quran, “Call them by [the names of] their fathers; it is more just in the sight of Allah. But if you do not know their fathers – then they are [still] your brothers in religion” (Al-Ahzab 33:5)

Almighty Allah knows best.

Asalamalikum My ist Question is when i take my meal (dinner/lunch). I want to know how to drink water(before meal/during meal/aftermeal) Full producer. Thank you 2nd Question is Types Of Hadiths



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

The Prophet (peace be upon him) instructed us on how to drink water.

Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) used to breathe three times in the course of a drink (he used to drink in three gulps). The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) also prohibited us from breathing in the drinking vessel because the bad smell or spittle may flow into the drink. This is both vile as well as injurious to one’s health. Abu Qatadah reported: “The Prophet (peace be upon him) forbade breathing into the vessel while drinking.”

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum shaikh are women curse & cause of distracting of men from duty to Allaah? ,Are women bad,harmful and dangerous for men's faith,religious improvement,worldly improvement and overall development/improvement? Are women severe threat to men & cause of leading men astray?Are they cause of spoiling of men? Some people the way describe women as "evil fitna" give me this vibe & it upsets me . I would be grateful if you would clarify it. Are women considered unwanted or not?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

Since each one is solely responsible for his own deeds, there is no room for the concept of original sin in Islam. Women are not evil, but they are like any other blessings of Allah. They are like wealth and offspring who are a test for humans in this earth. If one fulfills the duties of Allah towards his wife, fear Allah with regard to his offspring and wealth, they will be sufficient reasons to admit one into paradise. Aishah narrated that the Messenger of Allah said: “Whoever is tried with something from daughters, and he is patient with them, they will be a barrier from the Fire for him.”

 

Allah, further, says, what means, “And those who believed and whose descendants followed them in faith – We will join with them their descendants, and We will not deprive them of anything of their deeds. Every person, for what he earned, is retained.” (At-Tur 52:21)

 

Those things may also a cause of destruction if do injustice to his wife, daughters, sisters or indulge in unlawful acts with women.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Salam Alaykum I have once listened to my friends and visited a fortune teller, and he’s told my friends so many things that came right eventually and he’s also told me that I’m going to jail for a specific reason and I do not believe in such things but then I’m very scared, my question is can you change a distiny? And if these fortuneteller are liars then why have my friends faced whatever he’s said? What am I suppose to do I’m so lost! I first want to describe myself a little bit so you would understand why I am questioning such a question, I was born and raised in Iraq. And all I have ever seen was war and suffer from all around the world to Iraq, and I have personally been sexually abused and left alone I have been through stages of depression and panic attacks. I was left alone and I did many sins and also I drank alcohol and have done some wrong things in my life for self happiness and comforting but that was then.. i have been clean and asked for forgiveness Alhamdullah!



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh
Going to fortune teller is prohibited in Islam. They could read the psychology of their victims and try to scare them in order to manipulate their money. Narrated Safiyyah, daughter of Abu ‘Ubaid, on the authority of some of the wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him) who said, “He who goes to one who claims to tell about matters of the Unseen and believes in him, his Salat (prayers) will not be accepted for forty days.” (Muslim)

 

You have to regain your confidence in Allah, put all your trust in Him and regain your good relation with your creator. Allah says in the Quran, “Say, O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful. ” (Az-Zumar 39:53)

 

On how should you seek forgiveness from Allah, you have to make a since repentance.

 

First, your repentance should be meant for the pleasure of Allah. It should not be intended for showing off.

Second, you must express remorse for the sin you have committed.

Third, you must give up this sin.

Fourth, you must have a strong resolute not to make this sin again.
Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum shaikh,can female medical students touch non mahram male patients by bare (uncovered) hands for the purpose of learning clinical examination and it's findings? Please note that there are both male & female patients and we have to examine both of them for learning purpose cause we need it for professional life & if we don't do it will have negative effect on professional life .



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

Studying medicine is a communal obligation on all Muslims. People must study medicine to cure their diseases. A medical doctor can touch the body a woman in case of necessity or in a dire need. There are some hadiths on the Prophet’s permission to men to conduct cupping for women. Therefore, there is no problem of touching patients by bare hands. If there is a possibility of wearing gloves, you should do that.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamoualaikoum, I have a very important query and I would be extremely grateful if you could please respond to it. My husband is a gynaecologist and we would like to know if it is permissible in Islam for a man to be a gynaecologist please. He is currently practising in the UK, where there is no shortage of female specialists. Although he has already trained for 6 years now, he has started having doubts as to whether it is acceptable in Islam for a man to pursue such a career. The obstetrics field deals with complications of pregnancy while the gynaecological aspect deals with women's problems. All of these include having to examine a woman's private body part. We have sought the opinions of our local imams, but their views have been quite inconsistent unfortunately. The same goes for online websites which provide rather vague explanations on it.It's actually my husband's last chance to change specialty before he completes his training next year and we would be so grateful to you if you would share your view on it please, from a doctor's perspective.We have done istighara but have got mixed signs as well. Jazakallah,



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

 

If there is a sufficient number of female specialists in gynecology and obstetrics, then it should be limited to them and it is not permissible for your husband to study it, or to look at the ‘awrahs of women when training, whether that is examining them or doing surgery on them.

 

But if there are not enough women specializing in gynecology to do what is essential in this field, and there is a need for Muslims to specialize in it, then it is permissible for you to study it and you have a concession allowing you to see whatever you need to see to examine women and do operations.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Assalam u Alaikum: Can Islamic Center facilities be used for an Episcopal Prayer Service and Convention” The Center allows social and interfaith events but has refused any events that have any suspicion of shirk in Service. Please answer in the light of Quran and Sunnah and presidency from Aslaf JZK



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

 

It is permissible for a Muslim to make supplications and respond to supplications recited by followers of other faiths provided that they do not involve calling upon anything besides Allah or contain idolatrous phrasing.

 

The participants in these discussions should agree on certain ground rules, including not infringing on participants’ particular beliefs and convictions.

 

As far as common activities held by followers of different religions, those activities which fall within the category of rituals which Islamic Sharia requires to be performed in a prescribed format offering those rituals in a way contrary or variant to prescribed forms is an act of innovation which is not acceptable in Islam. For more details, please read my paper which was written on this topic at the following link:

 

https://www.academia.edu/5060193/Interfaith_dialogue_A_Muslim_Legal_Perspective_on_its_Validity_Concept_and_Practices_Introduction

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Aoa! I married secretly a man and my family doesn’t know. Now I’m 2 months pregnant. My siblings are trying to sort it out but we have a very big family so it’s not possible to cover things so early. One of my brothers is forcing me to abort it and my husband too. I don’t want to commit a sin. Please guide me what should I do?



 

Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

 

Most probably the fetus has been blown a soul after the elapse of 52 days. In this case, it is absolutely prohibited to abort the baby. Even if the soul has not been blown in him, there is no legal reason for abortion.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Salaam, I have a friend who married from back home, her husband was already married yet had no children... so decided with mutual consent from his first wife to remarry. When submitting application for visa he had to provide paperwork stating he had divorced his first wife. Now 8 years later he has still got the divorce certificate and the first wife doesn’t know that he’s divorced her. It is causing a lot of rift between the second wife (my friend) who believes that, that wife is divorced legally and he needs to tell her. Please help thank you.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

 

By just signing a paper or stating that he has already divorced his wife, she becomes immediately divorced. He can revoke this divorce by just returning back to normal relation even without her permission as long as she is still at her waiting period. After the elapse of her waiting period, he must have a new contract by getting two witnesses and a guardian and a new agreement with her on dowry.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

After I urinated and cleaned, I was going to showever and noticed that there was some wetness that mazi, I am having strong doubts on whether any drops have fallen on the floor and the impurity has transferred on to shoes, hairs and other objects on the floor before I could mop and vaccum.



You should not pay attention to doubts which are baseless. In your situation, it is just sufficient you pour water on the floor to make sure the place is clean. If any impurity is attached to shoes, just rubbing those shoes or walking on ground turns them pure.

 

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: A bedouin urinated in the mosque and some people rushed to beat him up. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Leave him alone and pour a bucket of water over it. You have been sent to make things easy and not to make them difficult.” (Al-Bukhari)

 

Moreover, Abu Hurairah reported: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: When any one of you treads with his sandal upon an unclean place, the earth will render it purified. (Abu Dawud)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum shaikh can female sit in front sit in non mahram male teacher's (whether he is Muslim or not) class to understand study topics, if she wears hijab & follows proper manners/ethics? please note that in her country not doing Hijab is common & maximum women study in non hijab state and there is not sufficient single gender institutions.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

 

One of the reasons scholars allowed a woman to meet with a non mahram is for education, but they set up some regulations which must be met such as properly dressing according to Islamic Sharia, not talking on any topic which may cause sin, a woman should not go in make up or in perfume. She must make sure that meeting with this man will not cause a fitna.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Salam to whomever reading this, My concern and question is a little complex. My sister wants to marry a man who has been divorced. My parents believe the boy is great, but do not think his family is as great as him. They are refusing to further meet the guy and his family. It makes sense and the reasons for his divorce aren't solid. It is because of his family. However, my sister wants to marry him and this has put my family in an awkward and fragile position. My sister still wants to pursue it, but my parents have threatened her and said she doesn't have the right to pursue this. What should she do? I am helpless in this situation and it hurts to see her like this. Thank you.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

 

It seems that your sister fell in love with this man. I think your role is to see if this man is really a good choice for your sister by making sure of his religion and character and making sure that his family will not make troubles for your sister in the future, you should take all possible ways of convincing your parents of at least opening the door for him or at least listening to him.

 

You should in this case warn them of deteriorating consequences which may happen such as your sister’s situation, her refusal of future proposals, her psychological situation and possibility of getting married to him in secret which may lead to a big problem at the family.

 

On the other side, if you think this type of marriage will not be successful, you should talk frankly to your sister that it may cause her a big problem in this life by dissevering ties with her family, getting the wrath of Allah because of disobeying parents. You must help her get rid of thinking about him by all means possible. Reliance on Allah, keeping one busy with prayers and supplications.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Hi, what does it mean to not break ties with family?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

 

It means that you must maintain good relations with your kith and kin even if they do dissever their ties with you. You must connect to them through calls, visits, gifts, spending money to them.

 

This is one of the greatest righteous deeds a Muslim can do. ‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr Al-‘as (May Allah be pleased with them) reported:  The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “The person who perfectly maintains the ties of kinship is not the one who does it because he gets recompensed by his relatives (for being kind and good to them), but the one who truly maintains the bonds of kinship is the one who persists in doing so even though the latter has severed the ties of kinship with him”. (Al-Bukhari)

 

Moreover, Anas b. Malik reported: I heard Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) as saying: “He who is desirous that his means of sustenance should be expanded for him or his age may be lengthened, should join the tie of relationship.” (Al-Bukhari)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Aoa, i have been married for last 05 years. Before marriage i was physically intimate with my husband which i understand is a grave sin and we both realized it then and even now. I do not remember if we have ever been physical before marriage to the point of intercourse, we refrained from it. We both were guilty of having physical intimacy before marriage but we did not know at that time that before entering into marriage contract, we had to repent first. I have read somewhere that if marriage is done before repentance, then nikkah is invalid. Can you please help in this regard, in light of Islamic Rulings. Kindly consider following situation . 1) We were unaware that we had to repent first, we were guilty and ashamed and we married to refrain ourselves from doing anything wrong anymore. 2) We do not remember engaging in sexual intercourse prior to marriage 3) we do not remember if we actually repented and asked for forgiveness before marriage. Regards



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

May Allah forgive all our sins. Scholars maintained that chastity is one of the prerequisites of getting married to a Christian woman. It has been stipulated in the Quran. Furthermore, the Quran sates, “The fornicator does not marry except a [female] fornicator or polytheist, and none marries her except a fornicator or a polytheist, and that has been made unlawful to the believers.” (An-Nur 24:3)

 

However, if a girl commits fornication, she is obliged to take the initiative to repent. Similarly, the man who committed fornication with her is obliged to repent. If marriage takes place before repentance, according to the correct view, such marriage is correct and should continue. There is no explicit proof to suggest that such a type of marriage is invalid or has to be concluded again.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum. I want to read the famous book on aqeedah, "Aqeedah At-Tahawiyyah" in English from a reliable source. Please suggest a book or website. Jazakallahu khairan.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

 

I suggest for you to read the translation of taḥawiyyah which is available at the following website:

 

http://www.siratalmustaqim.com/pdf/aqeedah-tahawiyyah.pdf

 

Moreover, I suggest you read the Islamic Creed Series by Dr. Omar Sulaiman Al-Ashqar. It is similarly available at the following website.

 

https://www.kalamullah.com/umar-al-ashqar.html

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

As'salamu Alykum, Please explain how to dispose off old audio and video cassettes containing Qur'anic recitation and Islamic lectures.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

 

You can donate them to people who have cassettes and can still use those materials. If you throw them away or destroy them, there is no problem since they are not treated like mushafs or Quran books.

Almighty Allah knows best.

Asalamualaikum I am now 41 years long back when I was 21 around I lied on Holy Al Quran to save my self for a big punishment still rools on my mind. What is the way to repent this kind of lie? Thank you



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

 

What you have done is called a yamin ghamus or dipping oath. It is called so because it dips a person into the hell fire. Scholars maintained that such a type of an oath does not have an expiation. Abdullah bin ‘Amr bin Al-‘as (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “(Of the) major sins are: to ascribe partners to Allah, disobey parents, murder someone, and to take a false oath (intentionally)”.

 

In order to gain forgiveness, you must repent to Allah by:
1. Giving up of this sin.
2. Remorse over what has been committed.
3. Having a resolve not to repeat it again in the future.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum, If i make Istikharah after which I feel an inclination towards a choice, and if after a few days, the inclination changes towards another choice, should I make the istikharah again? Or which choice should I make?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

 

If you recite the supplication of istikharah and things go smooth, it means that Allah facilitates such a matter for you. You should not be hesitant but you go ahead and put all your trust in Allah. Allah says what means, “And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah . Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him]” (Aal `Imran 3:159)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Salam I want to know if a husband says to his wife that if u will do that work u will be divorced And later on when he himself gives permission for that work and she does it then she will be divorced or not? And if he doesn't gives the permission for that same work and she still does it then what will be the consequences? The intention was just to stop her from doing that thing not to divorce her Kindly reply me as soon as possible Thanx



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

 

In both cases either the husband gives permission or not, the wife becomes divorced, because he made the condition that if she does such an act, she is divorced.

 

This is the view of the massive majority of Muslim scholars including Hanafis, Malikis, Shāfiʽis and Hanbalis. Al-Bukhari reported that Nafiʽ asked, “[What if] a man said that his wife was divorced irrevocably if she goes out [of the house]?” Ibn `Umar said, “If she goes out, then she is irrevocably divorced from him. If she does not go out, there is nothing.”

 

Almighty Allah knows best.