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Marriage and Other Issues (Fatwa Session)

Dr. Muhammad Salama
27 December, 2017

Dear Brothers/Sisters,

Thank you very much for joining us in this Live Fatwa session. We would like also to thank our guest, Dr. Muhammad Salama, for answering the questions directed to him. You will find the answers of your questions below.

Saturday, Dec. 30, 2017 | 13:00 - 15:00 GMT

Session is over.

Assalamualaikum, Brother , Can I marry someone for whom , I know some of her past stories like she had commited jina? But now she has done tawbah. Assalamualaikum.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

 All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Out of His grace, Allah, the All-Merciful, has opened the gate of repentance wide for all those who repent sincerely and earnestly to Him no matter how grave their sins are.

 

In the Quran we read, “Say, [O Prophet]: O My servants! Those [of you] who have committed [sins in great] excess against their own souls, never despond of the mercy of God! For, indeed, God forgives sins, one and all. Indeed, it is He [alone] who is the All-Forgiving, the Mercy-Giving.” (Az-Zumar 39:53)

 

Sincere repentance means a) to regret what one has done, b)to quit it immediately, and c) to have strong resolve that this will never happen again.

 

A woman who has engaged in illicit relations with men has to repent sincerely to Allah as indicated above and to earnestly ask Allah for forgiveness resolving to start a new period of chastity and purity. She needs also to increase her good deeds to wipe out bad ones. After mentioning a number of grave sins and the punish that awaits those who commit them, Allah (exalted is He) said, “except for whoever repents, and believes, and does righteous deeds. For [the likes of] them, then, God will substitute their misdeeds with good deeds. And ever is God  all-forgiving, mercy-giving.” (Al-Furqan 25:70)

 

So, if this woman has repented sincerely to Allah, you may marry her. But you need first to ask yourself whether you would be able to forget her past stories? You have to be honest with yourself and fair with her. If you will not be able to forget that, let her to find another one who may be unaware of her past to lead a new life with him.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Is the use of comdom and contraceptives permissible islamically. And also during sex is it OK to ejaculate outside as a waste to avoid control pregnancy in islam



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

  

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Basically, Muslims have been exhorted to have many children to increase the number of Muslims, which adds quantitative value and power to the ummah.

 

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “I shall boast of your great numbers before other nations.” (Abu Dawud)

 

But spouses may need, for one reason or another, to avoid impregnation. `Azl (coitus interruptus) is one of the old methods in this regard. It was even a practiced by some of the companions of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) during his lifetime and with his approval, as reported in Sahih Muslim on the authority of Jabir ibn `Abdullah.

 

Therefore, according to the majority of Muslim jurists, it is permissible to practice `azl, though it is still undesirable as Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) described it in another narrations as “an invisible way of burying a child alive.” (Muslim)

In principle, modern contraceptives, as ways of birth control, have the same ruling of `azl but with the following conditions:

 

1- There should be a legitimate reason to use them. It is not permissible to use contraceptives for fear of poverty, for example.

 

2- Contraception has to be with mutual consent of both spouses; otherwise, it is not permissible.

 

3- No harmful effects should be incurred as a result of using such contraceptives. It is not permissible to use any contraceptive that has harmful side effects.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum Alhumdulillah I am a muslim. My sister recently infromed me that she is NOT a muslim and doesnt practice islam. I informed her that I do not support her decision and encouraged her to return to islam. She is not interested in my advice. Is she an apostate? She has requested a loan of money from me. Is it permissable for me to loan her money. She requires the money to shift houses and rent a new house. She has 6 children and unable to afford the costs involved. I want to uphold ties and help her children, however I am reluctant to help as she has left islam. Please offer some advice. Jazaka Allahu khairun



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

You should warn your sister against the evil consequences of apostasy. Almighty Allah says what means “And whoever among you should turn away from his religion, then die while he is a disbeliever- the [good] works of [the likes of] these are [rendered utterly] futile [with God]- in this world and in the Hereafter- and these are the Companions of the Fire [of Hell]. They shall abide therein forever.” (Al-Baqarah 2:217)

 

Perhaps she has some misconceptions and needs to talk to an imam or a scholar.

 

Apostasy deprives a person of his/her rights in the Muslim community. Therefore, your contact with her should be for the sake of dissuading her from this ruinous decision.

 

You may also help her with this loan with the intention of drawing her heart toward you hoping that she might listen to your advice.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Pls explain to me 4 the last 10 yrs I am single and my life seems hopeless I try reading my namaz regularly and no result ... seems more disaster coming



In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Brother, we have to trust our Lord; He is All-Wise and All-Knowing. We are to proceed in this life following the legitimate reasons for our objectives and then leave the result for Allah Almighty. We have also to balance between our goals and our responsibilities seeking Allah’s help and assistance to fulfill them.

 

Du’a (supplication/prayer) is one of our strong weapons in this life to achieve what we aspire for and to fulfill our responsibilities. But still the answer to our supplication refers to the Wisdom and knowledge of Allah.

 

Sometimes, the answer is delayed for some wisdom that we are not aware of. Sometimes it is out of Allah’s mercy that a specific supplication is not fulfilled.

 

The Messenger of Allah said, “The supplication of anyone of you will be answered if he does not grow impatient and says: I supplicated but it was not answered.“

 

Moreover, the answer may take a different form. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) tells us that “There is no man who calls upon Allah with a supplication, except that he is answered. Either it shall be granted to him in the world, or reserved for him in the Hereafter, or, his sins shall be expiated for it, according to the extent that he supplicated – as long as he does not supplicate for some sin, or for the severing of the ties of kinship…“

 

So, brother, keep firm faith in Allah and pray humbly to him to make you pleased with His divine preordainment.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Assalamu alaikum shaikh I have three questions, 1)if there is a rule in countries where it is must for women to take photos for visa and passport in which two ears and some portion of hair in the side of ears must be uncovered along with face ( to make match face with ear for identification purpose) ,can women of those countries take their photos in this way for their visa & passport? Is their any concession for them as they are not doing it intentionally rather they are forced to do it because it is a rule 2) And for taking photos for visa and passport women have to uncover the ears, portion of hair beside ears along with face in front of non mahram male cameramen as their is no female camera man is available in our country. Are women allowed to do it? They are not doing it intentionally rather situations force them to do so.3) if they are not allowed to do it what is the alternative of it? Will they stop to go to foreign country for treatment,hajj, education,job,attending conference and other purposes?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

In principle, it is not permitted for a Muslim woman to uncover her hair and ears in front of non-mahram men. Cases of necessity entail concession. But the concession is restricted to actual necessity, which means in this case:

 

1- There has to be an actual necessity to have a passport. Travelling for hajj and medical treatment are examples of necessity, while travelling for tourism is not.

 

2- A Muslim woman has to be careful to uncover only the parts of her head required for identification as required by authorities.

 

3- If there is a woman or a mahram man who can take this photo, a non-mahram man is not allowed to take it. Modern digital cameras have made it easy to for anyone to take a photo. If, supposedly, there is no one who can take the photo except a non-mahram man, that will be another instance of necessity and a concession follows.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Can I ask from Allah guidance for a non Muslim whom I love?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Yes, you can ask Allah to guide a specific non-Muslim. But you need always to remember that “Indeed, you cannot guide [all] those whom you love [to Islam]. Rather, it is Allah [alone] who guides whomever He so wills. For He [alone] knows best those who are [truly] guided aright.”  (Al-Qasas 28:56)

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Asak, My father is in debt for 2 months, and suddenly an offer is presented to my mother to work as an hairdresser for an actress in a movie. She would like to do her job in naqaab and parda , she will be in contact only with the female cast of the movie, following the Islamic way. But my father says that working in a movie industry is totally haram and rejects my mom's proposal to work and lesser the burden on my father head as he is in debt. Please guide me by the correct way in isalm on this issue.



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

It is prohibited help others to commit sins. Allah says what means, “Rather, you shall help one another to virtuousness, and to the fear of God. But you shall not help one another to sin and to aggression.” (An-Nisaa’ 5:2)

 

Actresses in the current film industry commit sins and it is prohibited to help them in this regard.

May Allah bless your father for his attitude and help him pay off his debt.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

I'm engaged to marry this Muslim sister but she's the only Muslim in her family and she has previously been married and she is a non-virgin she has no Wali or Wallkill and currently she is not attached to any Masjid how can we get married islamically without falling into seeing the guard our cells because marriage between this is going to happen and I don't want to just have to go and do it the American way and get married so what are the rulings for marrying a previously marriage non-virgin bride that is a Muslim I need proof from Quran and Hadith and what I need to do to make this valid Insha'Allah assalamualaikum



In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

In order to conclude a marriage contract, a Muslim bride has to have a guardian or wali. Since a woman is often subject to the desires of ill-hearted and wicked opportunists, Islam has prescribed certain legislations which would maintain her rights and deter those whom carry ill-aims and desires.

 

Therefore, Islam gave great importance to the approval of the woman’s wali to ensure that a woman exercises her choice correctly. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Woman married without the permission of her Wali her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid.” (At-Tirmidhi)

 

However, if the bride’s wali is non-Muslim, while she is Muslim, he may not act as a guardian for her. In this case, a Muslim authority (e.g. a governor or a judge) may take the place of the non-Muslim wali.

 

In non-Muslim countries, heads of Islamic centers and imams of mosques may take this role.

In the case of the absence of a Muslim authority, a Muslim woman may deputize a Muslim learned and pious man to act as her wali in the marriage contract.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

Sir, today's with my full courage I want to say something,, i m weak in English please don't mind... When i was 17 my friends meet to me one girl with my same batch,, she purpose me n by the force of my friends i accept her proposal after 1 year of relationship... I had done that sin which would not be forgive by almighty... Now we are separated because i don't love her and even she is a Muslim,, she did not believe in almighty,, when i ask her to have hijab she avoid when I asked her to pray salah... She says she would do when she got old,,, she is modern girl but she love me.... Today i burn day by day that i have destroyed myself n feel regret all the time,,,, people says who committed zina will not be happy in their future marriage life,,, if this true what i done sins should not want to given to my future families,,, i want to remain as unmarried.. Again people says those don't want to get married n have a family is also sinn.. I want to purify myself,,, i feel shy as i should go to scholar n tell my problem... If you read this pliz reply



In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

This compunction is a good sign. Never feel despaired of repentance. Out of His grace, Allah, the All-Merciful, has opened the gate of repentance wide for all those who repent sincerely and earnestly to Him no matter how grave their sins are. Allah (exalted is He) said, “Say, [O Prophet]: O My servants! Those [of you] who have committed [sins in great] excess against their own souls, never despond of the mercy of Allah! For, indeed, Allah forgives sins, one and all. Indeed, it is He [alone] who is the All-Forgiving, the Mercy-Giving.” (Az-Zumar 39:53)

 

It is not true that zina is unforgivable sin. Allah says what means “Indeed, Allah will not forgive associating any god with Him. But He forgives anything less than this for whomever He so wills.” (An-Nisaa’ 4:48)

 

The door of repentance is always there, but you need to keep knocking sincerely until it is open.

 

Sincere repentance wipes away misdeeds. Forget what you heard from others and put your trust in your Lord. Pray to Him to grant you a pious wife and cherish the good intention of establishing a religious family that seeks the pleasure of Allah.

 

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

Assalamualaikum pls advise whether Crab is Halal or not?



Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

 

In the Name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Mercy-Giving

 

All praise is due to Allah. Peace and blessings be upon His Messenger Muhammad.

 

Yes, crab is halal and there is no reason to worry about it. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) was asked about the sea water and he replied, “Its [the sea’s] water is purifying and its dead [animals] are lawful [to eat].”

 

Almighty Allah knows best.