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As-Salaam ‘Alaykum sister,
I am sorry to hear of your difficulty. Your parents’ request of simply trying more is unrealistic. Your husband needs professional psychiatry if he is truly schizophrenic. He will most likely need medication and ongoing treatment to overcome his condition.
It is important to get the help of empathetic family members to support you. With respect, remind your parents of the fact that they will meet God one day and be accountable for their deeds, especially their treatment of their children. God will help you if you take courageous action to help yourself. We must take the means as God constantly reminds us in the Quran of those who have faith and act.
If your family does not recognize the severity of your situation or they deny it due to blackmail, then seek social services in your area to help you. Sometimes we need to go outside of the family for help if our family is the cause of our suffering.
If you and your husband do not work and are dependent on the parents financially, then you are likely to be under their control and directive. You should consider working and becoming financially independent so that you can be autonomous with family decisions.
In sha’ Allah, if your husband gets treatment, there is hope that you two can experience a positive marriage with additional support of counseling. If this type of support is not available, then start doing your own research and learn how to improve your marriage with online resources. There may be online counseling you can receive in your area as well.
Lastly, if thoughts of self-harm or suicide continue, please get in touch with suicide hotlines as soon as possible. Please, do not underestimate it. These hotlines are very helpful and have people willing to listen and support you. I could not find any hotlines in Pakistan, but here is a resource for India.
Hope this helps,
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