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Youth Related Fiqhi Issues

Sheikh Mustafa Umar
22 December, 2019

Dear Brothers/Sisters,

 

Thank you very much for joining us in this Live Fatwa session. We would like also to thank our guest, Sheikh Mustafa Umar, for answering the questions directed to him. You will find the answers of your questions below.

Monday, Dec. 23, 2019 | 17:00 - 19:00 GMT

Session is over.

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Q 1:

Assalamu’alaikum Warahmatullah ya Syaikh

What are the Nullifiers of Islam? Is doubting Islam or having uncertain thoughts about it nullifies someone’s Islam?

A 1:

Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

Having doubts about Islam is something normal for many people. We have questions and cannot figure out the answers, so it bothers us. This does not take anyone out of the fold of Islam.

The doubts should be brushed away or ask someone knowledgeable to get them clarified. It is a trick from Shaytan to make people think that by having some bad thought they are far from Islam and Allah, then he leads them down that path when they believe they have already wandered away. Be careful.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q 2:

Assalamualikum

I am from India, past 20 yrs ,I am suffering from mental problem, in the 20 yrs span I worked only approximately 10 yrs,

Ruqya done by raqqi several times ,the raqqi told me that it is due to waswas,not from jinn pocession ,and he told me that  it may due to punishment from Allah due to past sins, if it is punishment ,what is the solution to return back to Allah ,

Please give some advice for me to be patient

A 2:

Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

If you have excessive whispers about things, you might want to see a professional Muslim counselor who can help you overcome these things. Also, ask Allah to help you, in your own words, after each and every prayer.

Furthermore, study Islam by taking classes and it will help you understand that you do not need to ask so many detailed, hairsplitting questions about things you do. Slowly start to change the way you do things and you will see the difference.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q 3:

Assalamoalaikum, i am new to reading hadiths I wanted to know when reading hadiths that speak about rewards and good acts, or just in general.. pronouns such as He,his,a man who, son of Adam, brother, a person, the one who, are widely used in English translation. Is it safe to assume its for both genders, if not How do I know which one is being addressed to because  “she ,a women” ain’t  used often nor have I come across “the daughter of Adam”  For example is this Hadith and the one about raising 3 daughters reward  for both male/female  : Muslim also narrated (2983) that Abu Hurayrah said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The one who sponsors an orphan, whether it is a relative of his or not, he and I will be like these two in Paradise,” and Maalik pointed with his forefinger and middle finger.

A 3:

Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

The general rule is that the male pronoun refers to both male and female. This is part of the Arabic language, and many other languages have used this language throughout history. So ‘son of Adam’ refers to human, whether male or female.

Only sometimes the male pronoun or a male word is used in a specific context. The best way to know is to ask a scholar about that specific verse/hadith. The hadith you quoted about raising three daughters mentioned daughters specifically because they would be more neglected in ancient Arab society, so the Prophet used them as an example to emphasize the point, but the general rule would be extended to taking care of anyone who is normally neglected a little more, whether male or female.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q 4:

Assalamu alaikkum wa rahamathullahi wa barakathuhu

I have heard that it haram to keep photos of living beings in our home, sketching portraits are also prohibited. So today my mom saw my notebook having the cover page of a woman she told me to cover the book because it is not permissible to do so. I argued with her saying what is really wrong in keeping so. Then I researched about this many of the answers where saying that it is haram to keep so. Being a person who loves to draw and sketch portrait I also came up to the answer that it is also haram to sketch portraits. What is the ruling upon this issue?

Jazakallahu Khair

A 4:

Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

Scholars have differed views on this issue. My view is that it is allowed to draw pictures or sketch portraits of people, but it is disliked to put them up and display them in a prominent place such as showing a portrait high on a wall. Having them in your notebook is fine. Some scholars have allowed hanging them up as well, so there is some flexibility in this issue.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q 5:

Assalamu’alaikum.

I’m an aspiring film maker from India. I have a passion for this craft of film making and I have made some short films in the past.

Recently, I’ve been considering teaching this craft to others for a living. But one thing that is making me doubt this decision is that – as there will be a lot of students that will use this knowledge for good, there will also be some students that will use this knowledge for haram purposes.

Is my worrying right? Am I responsible to make sure how the students will use this knowledge?

A 5:

This is something many teachers face. Someone can teach martial arts and know that some students might use it for harmful purposes. However, as long as you are confident that most people will not likely do that, then you are not responsible for the actions of others. They could learn it from elsewhere if they wanted to harm others.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q 6:

I have a weird enemy who is not tired of troubling me he has kept me engaged in false cases and he is been torturing me from past 5 years I am tired of his extreme tortures. Now I am in a state either I have to pray for his death and wait for acceptance if that doesn’t work out then suicide myself to get rid of his torture but in case of suicide I have two small kids I’m worried about them and cry I Don know what to do, if I don’t do any of these things then he will make my life worse so worse that every time I’ll scared of getting raped so I feel it’s better I die rather than his torture.

A 6:

It was not the practice of the Prophet to pray for the death of his enemies. Instead, ask Allah to protect you from their evil. That is the best duaa. Furthermore, you must get out of the situation you are in, if you are in danger. Approach family or friends for help.

Lastly, suicide is prohibited in Islam so rule that out of your mind. Allah gave you life for a reason, and kept you alive for a reason. Don’t lose hope. Seek help from others. Continue asking Allah to help, and know that he will find a way out for you.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q 7:

Hello, Dear team of About Islam

I am new, in almost all.

I just married two months ago, and as New Muslim too I have lot of questions That I need to answers, in order to do good my role of wife and also to receive correctly that comes from Allah for me.

In my case my husband is an adult Muslim man (62) and we practice monogamy, it was our decision  until his last days of life. So he is gentle, loving person with me, details and all. But I feel like prisoner when she ask me please stay at home, I return, and All I want is go with him, continue being and doing together different stuffs.

I mean, I would love to know my rights, but also until what point I have “to stay” at home and don’t feel it like a prison. I mean get bored being in this way, to wait to see each other. I miss him, so  much.

I would love to spent together much more time.

I had been christian for more than 10 years and also professional very independent woman, I do my stuffs at home so fast (I am 44years old); and I enjoy being bussy (customs by years).

I want learn, until what point ,- My will is surrender to my husband? Or Must be always just surrender to Allah (swt) – I mean if Allah guides me in something, and my husband ask me something different to do, what should I do? I just want to do the right thing. Thank you so much.

A 7:

Welcome to Islam. A woman is not technically confined to stay at home all day, especially when there is nothing to do. At the same time, following the husband’s advice is also important, since he is the head of the household. It is important to find a balance between not getting stuck at home and getting bored, and listening to your husband.

My suggestion is to ask your husband to go to a mediator/counselor to see how this issue can be resolved. Perhaps you want to start a business from home or take online Islamic classes to keep you busy, if the area you live in is dangerous for women. If the area is quite safe and women generally move about freely, then you should discuss this with your husband and come up with a solution which can ease his concerns and resolve your concerns.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q 8:

The Question is about an emotionally & verbally abusive husband who has no problem while hitting his 4 year old son and doesn’t like to take responsibility for his wife because she is earning herself.

He says that he doesn’t care about anybody and anything, only about his health and is not ready to do any work which is physically demanding. Unfotunately hevfind studying also demanding and is most probably not able to maintain me. He is also not giving me my emotional rights, I don’t feel emotionally or financially save with him. My son is not physically save.

I feel nowadays like a married widdow.

He went to Uk since over a week and only called 3 time for 5 minutes to talk to his son. We have no communication. I am also not able anymore to give him his physical intimacy rights because his rudeness and cruelness and carelessness. He is not mentally ready for a second child and sais abortion is cheaper then a second child. He thinks as we live in Europe the islamic rights of an wife wouldnt apply. He thinks he has right on everything that I buy or what belongs to me. He scares me often with saying that he will take his suitcase and will go and 2 times he shouted that he will divorce me right here. I feel that I started to hate him and to avoid him. I don’t want to be his wife anymore. I don’t want him to controll me anymore. I don’t want him to have any right on me anymore. Please help me

A 8:

There are many challenges that come with marriage. Proper communication and compromise is one of them. I suggest that you find a mediator/counselor to sit with both of you and help you work towards a compromise and solution. Try this first and make a proper effort. If this fails, a woman is never stuck in a marriage and she can file her case to a Shariah Court if the man refuses to grant her khul` [release from the marriage contract through repayment of dowry].

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q 9:

Assa laamu AlIkkum,
One of my relative cousin sister in India,chennai has cheated, tricked my mother and have taken lot of money of my parents..My parents are old.
When I and my sister stepped in and asked the relative to repay the money which my cousin sister took from my mother,she doesn’t want to give back the money.
In this situation can my mother take the matter to police or is it haram to go to police and cause serious problem for the relative who cheated on us? what does our Islam law says about getting back the money from the wrong doers.

Thanking Jazakallahul khair

A 9:

Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

If someone has stolen money, the proper thing is to go to the police, or to an independent mediator. Disputes within family can often be solved by a senior family member who can intervene and act as an arbitrator. If this is not possible, then it is allowed to go to the police, since that is what they are there for.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q 10:

Assalamu alaikum,

I used to make lot of supplications before. One day I prayed against all my supplications.

I know that praying against self might end up being an unsolvable problem.

I have repented for it. So does repentance solve my prayers against myself?

Jazak Allahu khayran

 A 10:

Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

Yes, sincerely repenting can fix this problem. There is no unsolvable problem. Allah is capable of anything. Don’t make this mistake again and trust in Allah.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q 11:

Asalamu Aleykum. Since our Prophet clarified well that we seek knowledge even if it is to seek as far china, it means that knowledge is very important. I have been trying to figure out if there are signs that show the importance of knowledge, then i came to notice that the first thing Allah created was pen, the first wahyi that Jibril (A.s) delivered to our prophet Mohamed (S.A.W) was Read iqra. The first step humans do to get education is They first get the pen which they use to write and later learn to read. It seems the signs i mentioned above is followed by default for any person trying to get educated. So can we say the most important thing for humans is education? If yes does this mean it is only education that make a person to know what is need to be done in this life to differentiate the right from wrong?

A 11:

Seeking knowledge is very important in Islam, especially knowledge of what Allah wanted us to know about our purpose in life. Education is other fields such as science, math, and history also has value, but that is not what Allah was speaking about. Rather, it was the ability of the human being to understand this knowledge, that other creatures cannot, which is a blessing to humans only.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q 12:

Salam walikum. I have a question is there any fatawa that says he have to bury the body in certain directions. Like east west or south east etc.. please I need to know.
Thank you.

My second question is. Can women go to visit graves?
My father passed away and we don’t have any brothers. My husband don’t want to go visit the grave so can I go?
Please answer this for me. Thank you
Jajakallah khair

A 12:

Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

Yes, a dead body should be buried facing the qiblah [direction of prayer].

Yes, it is allowed for a woman to visit a grave, especially the grave of your father. Just make sure to not wail excessively or say anything that Allah would dislike such as complaining about his death.

Almighty Allah knows best.

 

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Q:

my husband told me talaq three times as a joke. what is the ruling of this matter.

A:

Marriage is a contract, like a business contract in a way. If someone signs a contract and then claims it was a joke, the contract is still valid. Likewise, divorce pronounced as a joke is still valid. The Prophet (peace be upon him) explicitly said this.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q:

Salaam Wrb shayk, I’ve read a hadith in abu dawud and nasa’i that abu bakr said that no one has the right to kill anyone for insults but the prophet. Is this sahih? because this contridicts what the quran says and what aisha said about the prophet in tirmidi, and that is that he does not repay evil with evil but would overlook and pardon.

A:

Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) was not so petty as to kill people who insulted him. There are dozens of people who insulted him during his lifetime, even those who physically harmed him, but he did not retaliate.

The only time he ever took action was when someone was a danger to the Muslim society, like those enemies who fought the Muslims in battle or plotted wars against them.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q:

Aoa.hope u are doing great .I want to ask about a question about halal earning

I am working in a hospital and my duty hours are 2 pm to 8 pm .But I arrive late and leave early .Sometimes i dont do anything while there .

The employer seldom has problems with me

Is the pay that i get halal??

A:

Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

It is haram for you to not do your job properly. When you were hired, you made a contract with the company to perform certain duties. Violating that contract is unlawful in Islam. Let your employer know if you are unable to make the proper hours or have nothing to do. If the employer consents to a modified schedule/duties, then that will be fine.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q:       

So I have recently been talking to a guy I met through social media and I like him a lot and my intentions are to talk to him and get to know him to see if we are compatible for marriage. For some reason i feel really guilty about it and i am not sure if i should continue the conversation. I am not someone that can do an arranged marriage because my personality and lifestyle does not allow it, so I need to find someone on my own terms and just want to see if I am compatible with them, but i am not understanding why I am feeling so guilty and as if I am doing something haram. So please give me advice on how to keep things halal, why i am feeling guilty, and how to go about finding someone or continuing the convo i’m having now. For some reason I feel as if I am betraying my mother and allah swt so if you could advise me somehow that’d be great. Jazakallah.

A:

When speaking with a guy, you must observe the three P’s: purposeful, public, professional. When chatting with a guy online, even if for the eventual potential for marriage, these rules still need to be followed.

If you meet, it must be in a public area. When you talk or chat, the conversation must be purposeful, in that you are not just chitchatting or flirting but are talking about marriage and what you are looking for.

Also, the conversation must be professional, in that it doesn’t become too casual.

Following these three guideline will prevent people from ‘falling in love’ or becoming too emotionally attached. This does not mean you will have an arranged marriage: you can get to know the person and their character/personality by speaking to them for many hours, as long as those rules are followed.

Also, you must let your mother know that you are speaking to this guy, and the types of things you are speaking about. This will further protect you from crossing more boundaries.

Almighty Allah knows best.

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Q:

Assalaam alaikum sisters/brothers.

Question, Isn’t wrong to wear hijab scarf any style you want?

A:

Wa `alaykum as-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

Allah has prescribed the hijab for a specific reason, and that is to cover the body to promote modesty. As long as the required parts of the body are being covered, the specific style does not matter.

This is a mercy from Allah that He allowed us to develop our own styles of clothing as long as we fulfill the requirements of covering up.

Note that the covering should not be so tight as to reveal parts of the body, and also note that some colors or styles might be considered very attractive and alluring in a particular culture, so care must be taken not to wear something so provocative that it defeats the purpose of hijab in the first place.

Almighty Allah knows best.