20 November, 2019
Q
Assalamualaikum
My husband and I are both Muslims, Pakistani-Americans. Many of my husband’s friends and coworkers are not Muslims. They consume alcohol, use drugs, and partake in many other activities, which are haram to us but are completely normal to their lifestyles.
My husband is often compelling me to try to spend some time with his friends or invite them to our house, but I do not feel comfortable in their presence and decline. On one occasion, his friend came into our home under the influence of drugs and another being drunk. There is nothing I can do that they change their lifestyle. However, in my opinion, we should distance ourselves from people who engage in such activities.
This topic has caused much stress and disagreements between my husband and I. I have no issue with him continuing his friendship with them, but I would prefer my husband not to be present while they partake in these activities nor bring it into my home. He feels that as long as he is not engaging in these activities with them, there is no issue. Please advise what we should do.
My husband and I are both Muslims, Pakistani-Americans. Many of my husband’s friends and coworkers are not Muslims. They consume alcohol, use drugs, and partake in many other activities, which are haram to us but are completely normal to their lifestyles.
My husband is often compelling me to try to spend some time with his friends or invite them to our house, but I do not feel comfortable in their presence and decline. On one occasion, his friend came into our home under the influence of drugs and another being drunk. There is nothing I can do that they change their lifestyle. However, in my opinion, we should distance ourselves from people who engage in such activities.
This topic has caused much stress and disagreements between my husband and I. I have no issue with him continuing his friendship with them, but I would prefer my husband not to be present while they partake in these activities nor bring it into my home. He feels that as long as he is not engaging in these activities with them, there is no issue. Please advise what we should do.
Answer
Salam Alaikum,
In this counseling video, you will learn:
Let him know that you trust him, but you do not trust Satan.
Talk to your husband about how Satan works, how he leads people to go astray step by step.
Make duaa to Allah that He guides your husband.
Invite your friends who you know to have pious husbands. Inshallah, your husband will develop a good relationship with them.
Encourage your husband to accompany good Muslim brothers.
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