Answer
Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
In this fatwa:
Your friend should break this pre-marital relationship immediately and inform this person that she cannot marry him unless he becomes Muslim.
Responding to the question, Dr. Muzammil H. Siddiqi, Fromer President of the Fiqh Council of North America, states:
A Muslim’s love for Allah should be more than any other love. Allah says in the Qur’an, {Those who believe, they are more ardent in the love of Allah.} (Al-Baqarah 2:165)
Also Allah says: {Say: If it be that your fathers, sons, brothers, your mate or your kindred, the wealth that you have gained, the commerce for which you fear a decline or the dwellings in which you delight are more dear to you than Allah and His Messenger and striving in His path, then wait until Allah brings about His decision and Allah guides not the rebellious.} (At-Tawbah 9:24)
Non-mahram males and females may talk to each other, but should not socialize or go out in parties. A single male and female should never be together in a place where they are all alone, isolated without the access of anyone else. Islam has given these rules to save men and women from committing sin or getting involved in situations where they might commit sin.
If your friend really loves Allah, then she should give up that which is not pleasing to Allah. It was haram for her from the beginning to be involved in this relationship.
She is still Muslim, but she should make tawbah and if her tawbah is sincere, Allah will forgive her. She should break this relationship immediately and inform this person that she cannot marry him unless he becomes Muslim.
Almighty Allah knows best.
Editor’s note: This fatwa is from Ask the Scholar’s archive and was originally published at an earlier date.